Jessica writes, “I am a married woman who has been in a relationship with a married man for over a decade. Everyone knows about it now and is no one is happy with the arrangement but since divorce is not an option for the sake of kids, they have simply accepted the arrangement. We meet when we can but this week while we were talking about his not returning my calls for several days, he told me not to try to control him and leave him alone. He no longer answers his phone and I am freaking out. I don’t know what to do because I love him a lot and miss him right now.”
Adultery is not easy
As you can probably understand, he is probably dealing with serious problems in his marriage at home right now. That is why he has switched off his phone and is not able to speak to you. I hope you can understand that his wife must give him a very difficult time (if your husband doesn’t, you are a lucky woman) over the relationship with you. It is not easy for him to have you. He loves you but cannot leave his family either. Definitely his heart is with you but he is also responsible to his legally married wife.
You two have been together a long time and I doubt if he has ended the relationship. Most likely, he just wants to deal with problems at his home right now. So it is best that you not call him and bother him. Be patient and hopefully after the trouble at home is over, he will call you.