I have been trying to help a BBW with her self esteem. She listened to my advice and gave me an update. She writes, “I wore clothes that have been in my closet collecting dust. Nothing fancy but I actually ventured in public with a skort and spaghetti strap top on. I felt very awkward at first and actually felt like I was going to have a panic attack but I stopped focusing on how much of my skin was visible and focused on having fun instead. By the end of the day I realized I had a sunburn. I guess I’ll have to buy sunscreen as I never buy it since I hardly ever expose my skin. It felt good to not be so scared about what others may or may not be thinking…to just smile, laugh and not worry. I am planning on going shopping and see if I can find some shorts or clothes other than jeans that I feel comfortable in and perhaps a nightie instead of pj bottoms. I went this morning to the shelter that I often times volunteer at in a tee-shirt that was a little tighter than I would have ever worn before. If anyone had anything negative to say they didn’t say it in earshot. My treat for the day will be to go to the pool and sit with my legs dangling in the water and watch the sun go down. I haven’t been swimming since I was 15 years old.”
I must say that I am proud of her and very impressed by not only her enthusiasm to change but also her steps to make those changes.
I hope you all realize that we live in a world of very self-centered people so as much as we like to believe that others care about us, the reality is that they really don’t unless you really stand out for some reason. In other words, you can do what pleases you and not worry about feeling self conscious.