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Amanda
writes, "I have been
fooling
around with a married coworker for 6 months. It is
hard for us to meet (he's
married, I'm not; we both work late nights in a
customer service center) but all I can think about is
kissing
him, holding him,
sleeping with him. He is
not happy at home, but
he can't divorce because he has a teenage son and
doesn't want to hurt him. He constantly
complains about his wife. Here is my dilemma. He
will be leaving our company for a job in another city,
so I won't be able to see him. I recently found out
there have been
other
women before me. A mutual friend also told me that
this
man would do anything for his wife, and would never
leave her, no matter how miserable he is. How do I
prepare myself for the inevitable, and
move on?
Honestly, I dream about this man every night."
All married men trash their wives
to seduce other women
This
man has conned you using a time-tested
trick used by adulterers. They essentially
elicit sympathy from other women by complaining
about
how bad their wives are,
how lonely they feel, and how they are such
wonderful husbands and fathers. All these things
work like
magic with most women because then they see a
man who is awesome in every way but is
not getting what he deserves from an awful wife. In
reality, though, many of them are actually
married to
wonderful women, have
happy and loving marriages, and
trust their men completely that they will never
say a bad
word about them or
cheat.
Men who do not believe in monogamy
should not marry
I
generally have no opinion on
adultery, but I find such men disgusting. In my
opinion, if you want to
enjoy more
than one woman, then
don't get
married, but if you are
married and still want to fool around, then at least
be honest part of the time. I would rather see this
man
telling you that he loves his wife, that she is
awesome that he will never leave her for you but because
you are a
sexy woman, he will
love to fool around. I know a lot of women are fine
with that and would still do what he wants to do.
A fling with a married man is just
for fun
Think of
it this way: both of you
had fun and he was more or less open from the
beginning that he was
not interested in a serious relationship with you.
Yes, you seem to have
fallen in love with him to some extent, but it is
good that he is leaving, because it is time for you to
find a real relationship. As long as you had this
crush on him, you would not be able to
find a man who is single and will love you as you
love him. In the future, if you do
hook up
with a married man who is trashing his wife but
still hanging on to her, it is simply because
he wants sex from you. It is fine to
have fun with such a man as long as you know that it
is nothing more than entertainment.
You
had a good time but it is over. Trust me, unless this
man was Casanova, you will find dudes like that in a
heartbeat. There are so many
married men looking for naive girls, they
wine and dine them,
shower them with gifts, and even
pretend that they are in love with them. My advice
to you would still be to
fill the gap that you have in your heart with a
real
relationship. |
