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Randy
writes, "You'll probably laugh at the question I'm going
to ask, but am I a bad
person who wants to cheat or is it normal for
men to seek sex outside their marriage? I am in a
normal marriage which has nothing much exciting going
on, my
wife is attractive and we still
make plenty of love, but I cannot resist the
temptation to be with other girls and for reasons
that I do not know well (maybe that I am one of those
macho but metrosexual guys), other
women are always trying to seduce me knowing fully
well that I am a
married guy."
Morality of
cheating
Regarding
your question if you are a
bad
who
wants to cheat, honestly, I do not know. I think the
definition of bad person is very subjective. We
Americans think that
Osama is a
bad person but you probably know that many
Muslims treat him like a hero. Similarly, whether
cheating is immoral is not easy to judge. Each
person has to make their own judgments based on their
personal value system. A lot of people continue to
love their partners and families and even do it
better if they have a
secret
lover (indeed, it is true that many
people who cheat ignore their spouses and families,
but in most cases, people with an
extramarital relationship actually
pay more
attention to their spouses). I guess it is not a
surprise that people like to have
multiple partners and that is why many people argue
that we are
polyamorous by nature and it is naive to
pretend to be monogamous.
How many women and men cheat?
And your question if it is normal for men or
women to cheat, the answer is that a lot of women
and men do so and I guess that makes it normal. I hear
from such people daily and there are many statistics
(despite the fact that I suspect most people do not
admit cheating) that show
cheating is widespread across cultures (in cultures
like France, Costa Rica, Japan, China, etc. it is not a
big deal), religions (while
Christians may fume over it, Islam and
Mormons allow many wives), income groups, education
level, etc. |
