| Summary: Failure of a
marriage very early on is devastating to the woman
especially if she has given it her best and gotten into
it with a heart full of hope and joy. While it is
good to end a marriage that has no prospects for
happiness, it requires a lot of effort to move on.
Below I give tips to an Indian woman on how she can get
on with her life after leaving her abusive husband.
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| Sangeeta
in Jaipur, Rajsthan, India writes, "Because of
abuse by my husband, I left him a few months after
our
wedding. I could not spend even a day with him
without crying because he and his family mistreated me
from day one. Since I decided to
return to my very supportive parents, he has not
even tried to reconcile. On the contrary, he has set his
terms and conditions if I wanna live with him. Or else I
am free to
seek a divorce. His conditions are that I will have
to obey him all the time and never ask him why is he
taking this decision. Secondly, he wants to
have a baby ASAP. Thirdly I am not allowed to
go back to college or
work or even get out of the house without him. Now
that's just not fair. I have refused to accept his
conditions and hence we have decided to
divorce. Surprisingly, no action has been taken for
the
divorce proceedings from his side.
I don't love him anymore. In fact I hate him. He is
the worst person I have met in my life but I am just not
able to control my
emotions right now.
I feel so lonely and I got no one to
share my life with. I am just so worried about my
future. Tears have become the main element of my life.
And that guy, he is least bothered. It has no effect on
him, he is so stubborn. I just don't know what to do."
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None of this
surprises me because a man who said to you earlier that the
problem is not him but you, will again try to make you feel
awful for doing this. I am glad that you have
chosen to divorce. I am not a lawyer, but I suggest that
you consult a
divorce lawyer right away so that he cannot play any
dirty legal tricks on you while you wait for him to act and
you get your
fair share after divorce.
I
understand how you feel. It is a difficult time for any
woman, but more so for a
woman
who trusted her new husband so much dreaming of a
happy and beautiful life full of love, joy, family, and
got misery in return. I am sure that you are devastated,
considering that this is the second time it has happened to
you. The best way to deal with it is to let your emotions
come out. Do not stop your tears because it is important for
you to get rid of your anger and sorrow. If possible, you
may want to get help of a psychologist to deal with your
trauma.
In the
meantime try to take one step at a time to resume a more
normal life. It could be as small as trying a
new hairstyle or
painting your
nails differently or buying
Victoria's Secret be happy panties. Try to
reconnect with your friends and hopefully you can
move on. |
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