Physical intimacy needed for stronger relationships
Tips on how to get in the mood

By Pierre Coda

Why does everything eventually end up so that it has something to do with sex? Simply because once some of our basic needs are met, the first thing we think of is sex, even ahead of wealth, vacations, social goods, etc. Even homeless people, who do not know where their next meal will come from, think of it. The reason we all crave it and feel great when we get it in the right amount is that it has both a physical and emotional impact on us. Scientists also have proven that good private life is good for health and overall well-being.  (Related article:  Couples and physical intimacy)

Physical intimacy is very similar to other needs of the body and mind. While some people might make it appear that intimacy is something bad or dirty, the reality is that a healthy dose is essential for all adults. Intimacy keeps us healthy, reduces depression, helps in sleeping, boosts immunity, and gives our skin a glow that is very obvious. Dr. Natasha Turner, an expert, "If you notice a decrease in your libido, do not let it go un-addressed. Your drive is a basic human need - if you have no drive it is an indication that something is wrong. Relationship problems, depression, hormonal imbalance or stress can contribute to a lack of libido. Consider supplements to raise testosterone or reduce stress and see you doctor for proper assessment." (Related article:  Intimacy is critical to a healthy relationship)

What can you do to have a better sex life?

Several studies, in particular the Laumann study, have shown that, "...married men and women have more intimacy sessions than do single men and women who don't have live-in partners...single men and women who have live-in partners have more than do married men and women...The most likely reason is that it is more frequent in the early stages of a relationship." So the simple advice is: go get a relationship without any further delay.  What else can you do?

• Stay in shape. If you are sick or are simply not fit, you will not be capable of having good sex life. There is another important point to note here: If you are in a committed relationship or are married, chances are that your partner will love you to a point that she or he is unlikely to complain if you do not look great and do not satisfy her or him. But you will have to blame only yourself if this relationship may soon be over or even if it continues, chances for adultery are way too high. If none of this happens, your partner will be very unhappy with life.

• Eat right. As Dr. Turner of Truestar Health points out, desire is determined in part by what we eat. So an unbalanced diet will disturb our hormonal balance and reduce our appetite. If you think you are not getting enough nutrients, try to take the right supplements.

• Be happy. Who doesn't have problems? No matter what you have, problems are always waiting to come. Thus, we need an attitude adjustment so that we treat problems as something to deal with but not to put life on hold.

• Get in the mood. There is no way you can ignore hunger or thirst for too long. Even if you are too busy or stressed to eat or drink, in no time the body will give you enough warning signs that you will rush to eat or drink. Not the same with intimacy. It is both a physical and chemical process. If the brain does not want it, the organs don't even bother. You can get into the mood by being close to your partner. Think of her or him romantically. Set the stage for seduction. Turn the bedroom into a special place for the two of you.  Dress in lingerie.  Use candles, aromatherapy, and music to get ready.  (Related:  Britney Spears in bed and 30 day sex challenge)

• Increase your knowledge base. We all assume that we know everything about it when we really know little. Use whatever resources (websites, videos, books, etc.) you can access to increase your knowledge and then use them. Not everything will work for you but experiment with your partner and eventually something will click perfectly for you.

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