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Dating
tips to find a girlfriend
Be
organized and proactive when seeking a lesbian relationship
By Pierre
Coda
Nancy,
a lesbian writes, "I'm 18-year old
college student. One of my personal challenges is getting the courage to
approach other girls and find a girlfriend; so I procrastinate, and that actually leads to putting it off indefinitely. What can I do?"
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relationship)
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 Well,
this is a problem that affects a lot of people. In fact,
there are millions of men and women who do the same while seeking relationships. They literally miss out on their lives
because they are shy.
Here
are a few other things that you can do to first, deal with your shyness
and its related implications, and two, to be more organized when it
comes to dating: (Related article: How
to overcome shyness?)
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How to overcome shyness?
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It is human nature to feel a bit
awkward finding a date, particularly when you are a lesbian.
Even in the United States, the environment for gays and lesbians is
very hostile.
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The best way to handle your
reluctance and hesitation is to
treat even
romantic situations as non-romantic. So imagine you
were talking to the
librarian or a clerk at a bank. How would
you behave? You would not be shy at all. By doing that you
will come across as confident, charming, and perfectly average girl. And if the object of your desire is charmed by you, she
will be attracted to you even if you did not try to be 'romantic'.
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If you are embarrassed to
approach other girls, give them a chance to approach you. So
you need to surround yourself with people that you like. So
for example, let us say that you like girls with interest in basketball. Then
you need to attend all events where basketball fans are likely to
hang out. You don't have to do much beyond that. Be
pleasant, approachable, and friendly if others approach you.
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Try online
dating. Dating
websites are a great way for you
to find good dates from the privacy of your room. Even if you
are shy, you can do the search online. You can even indicate
in your personal ad that you are shy so that others
will be more considerate towards you. There are also online
dating websites for just lesbians.
How to be better organized to
find a relationship?
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Treat dating like any other
important project in life, whether it is to lose
weight or to learn a new skill or to get higher grades in
college
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Use technology to your
advantage. As I said above, online dating will automate a lot
of your search effort. Apart from that, you must set goals for
yourself. For instance, if you set a goal of writing two
emails a week or meet one person a week or whatever else works for
you, you will be accountable to yourself. Write your goal down
and then review your performance every day.
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