Marriage to an Indian man
The trend is picking up but still very few Americans are married to them......By Pierre Coda

Marriage to an Indian man by an American woman is a relatively new phenomenon.  While Indian men have been in the US for decades now, they have traditionally gone back to India to find brides.  However, as India opens up its borders and American women discover India, there is a rise in marriage among Americans and Indians.  However, as one would expect, despite the excellent English language capabilities of Indians, communication is not always easy.

Let us look at Veronica's case.  She is an executive at a software firm in the San Jose area.  She writes, "I met an Indian man two years ago while I was managing a project in Pune, India, and last year - we were married in New York City! There certainly has been some challenges and still are (in any marriage I'm sure). I'm still learning about how my Indian husband thinks! Misunderstandings are still the biggest problem. He is almost fluent in English, I have very basic skills in the Indian language (Marathi) that he grew up speaking. I think we can communicate really well because he does business in English but emotions are hard to express sometimes without the American context that he lacks and the minimal understanding that I have of his culture. It's very important to express what you feel clearly! What can I do?”  (Related article:  Tips for American women in Asia to find a relationship)

Yes we recognize that you belong to a very small group of women (that now includes Elizabeth Hurley who was married to Arun Nayar) but we are trying our best to still find such women so that their experiences can be used to improve the lives of all such interracial couples. It is only recently that there has been a surge in number of Americans marrying Indians (from India). Most of it is largely driven by the fact that American companies are increasingly doing business in India and as American executives not only travel to India more often, they also spend months there. So it is natural that relationships will develop and marriages will happen.  (Related:  Indian boyfriend)

From our research, Indian men not only tend to be shy they also do not share how they really feel. They feel that sharing their innermost feelings with a woman will make them come across as weak and feminine. And if context is a barrier, things can get very difficult. 

Finally, talk to him. Ask him questions and tell him about how you think and feel. We expect that he will get "Americanized" pretty quickly.  Just take a look at Samrat Chakrabarti.

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