How to please a woman in bed?
Women no longer satisfied by physical intimacy.  They need more......By Pierre Coda

Most men assume that they can win a woman's heart by charming her through expensive designer gifts and sweet words. And then if they can provide her with intimacy in bed, she will be there for him the rest of his life. This is no longer true and women are making it known to men. Women are now seeking not only great intimacy but also a stronger bond that provides sufficient reasons for them to stay together.  

Lizzy from Tucson, Arizona writes, "In North America, physical intimacy seems to be about one thing and very little else. I don't happen to be one of those women who can climax like that, so I haven't always had a fulfilling experience." She tells us that with the adult toys available today, she can do it herself anytime she wants without any complications of being involved with a man. What she is looking for is a person with whom she can establish a strong spiritual connection.

Michelle in Detroit, Michigan, is not so sure either if men are doing enough to attract her. Now in her 40s, she is looking for a meaningful relationship, which has as much excitement in bed as in establishing an emotional connection. She tells us, "Throughout my 20s I felt too shy to ask for what I wanted. I learned to ask as I got older and have had different reactions, from negative to indifferent. I've tried to be subtle and polite without much success." She goes on to say that men most often think about relationships from their perspective. If he is enjoying intimacy, then it must be good for her. If he feels that things are going well for him then they must be going well for her too. Michelle adds, "I have learned over the years that it is better to demand what you want; otherwise, men just take you for granted."  (Related:  Britney Spears in bed)

Cindy in San Jose agrees. "I broke off with one boyfriend because he simply refused to do anything different in bed. I wasn't mad at him; I just wasn't turned on any more with his usual moves and felt frustrated," she tells me. Men have traditionally thought of physical intimacy as a purely physical activity, which it is not. In fact, climaxes happen in the brain not in the private areas. For women, in particular, physical intimacy is an eclectic cocktail that just has the right amount of physical, emotional, and spiritual pleasure.

Melinda in Seattle complains about men's selfishness when it comes to intimacy as a couple. "Both men and women talk about not getting enough. But my partners gave little of it and expected a lot of it in return," she tells me. Why is it that almost all men desire we perform it on them but they get disgusted when we demand it on us?" she asks.  (Related:  What to do the first time we are together alone?)

Looks like it is high time that men stopped taking women for granted. Communication about what their partners like is key for both men and women. Nothing is more effective than asking questions and listening. And do not forget that strong relationships are not based on one thing; they require a dose of everything: physical, emotional, and spiritual. 

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