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How
to please a woman?
While
men need to learn it, women have a responsibility to give hints to men
By Pierre Coda
When most people
enjoy physical
intimacy, they are basically trying to please themselves. The reason is simple: we can only feel what is happening to us. If something feels good to us, we do it more often and more aggressively because we assume that if it is good for me, it is probably good for my partner too. That is not always true, as some of us have learned. Men and women who have figured this secret out are often labeled as great lovers. Why? They have learned how to better understand the needs of the other person and do what it takes to please. In most cases, one is suitably rewarded for pleasing a partner.
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It is not important that both
partners
climax at the same time or from similar activities. What is important is that both partners
climax from whatever works for them. For example, a woman might
climax through penetration while a man might climax through
something else. Well, their duty is to make each other climax separately rather than the man insisting that he will only have
THIS and the woman insisting that she will
only have THAT.
No one, particularly men,
likes to be told that she or he is not performing: they consider it as a direct attack on their
personality and get offended and defensive, making it even worse. I consider discovering each other's
sexual preferences
similar to discovering each other's tastes in food or music or types of vacations. Never assume anything. Not all guys like beer,
pizza, and
comfortable sofas. You have to gradually ask the right questions and get the answers. Similarly, you have to give hints to your partner so that he learns about you. (Attention
Men: If you are reading this: Learn to ask questions and again be subtle about them since most
women are very shy to talk what they like in the
bedroom). |
 So what can these ladies do?
Since a man does not really know what
pleases a
woman, a woman has to tell him what works for her. It is possible to do so without sounding bossy or challenging his
manhood. And a man who does not want to listen is probably not worth being your
boyfriend or husband. So tell him exactly what works for you and how he should do it. Be subtle in your approach. Be like a guide rather than a drill sergeant
(Britney
Spears in bed). Sometimes women do not like to approach
this topic directly and this is perfectly understandable.
(Related:
How to make a woman hot) We all have our personal preferences. If you like something then you have to find a way to communicate it to your partner. For instance, you can rent an
adult
movie (Porn
addiction) that you
like and when the right scene comes, you should point out that you would like to try it with him. Even if you have done it a million times before, you should still take the "Let's try it" approach rather than telling him what to do. Then it becomes an adventure for both of you. (Related:
Britney Spears fantasy room)
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Learn to give hints. Most men are pretty smart to get those hints. Here is one trick that worked for my client. She really wanted
oral from her husband but it just did not
happen for years. She was too shy to tell him and he was clueless if she wanted it. So I suggested that she stock her
lingerie drawer with a couple of
thongs and
panties. Then I suggested that they take a couple of days
off to go on a short romantic
weekend trip. Of course, she brought her new collection with her. The very first night when he
undressed her and saw the
beautiful
underwear, he was mesmerized
with it and played with it for the longest time. It did not take him long to
do what she wanted. And the four nights that they were together they
had a great time. Since then he has discovered the joy of doing it and she has figured out what it takes to attract a man's attention without saying a word.
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pleasure
Confront
your partner
First time
sex
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first time we are together alone?
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up in the bedroom?
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