| Summary: Since addiction
is a mental problem, when people are able to overcome
their addiction, it also means that they have been able
to make a major change in their life. Such a
change is reflected in other aspects of life like
relationship, family, career, etc. and other people have
to learn to deal with the consequences. Below is
the case of a woman whose boyfriend is so changed that
she does not know how to deal with it even though he is
a better man now. |
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Megan
writes, "I
ended a relationship after five years because my
partner's
drinking was becoming uncontrollable. With the help
of a
social worker, he decided to deal with
addiction
and after a few months I sent him a note checking up on
him (because I so
miss him; I did not tell him so though), he came to
see me, but told me that he was going to
Utila for a diving vacation. He said he still
fancies me and I should wait to see what happens on his
return. What do you think?"
Overcoming alcohol as part of a life makeover
Based
on what you are telling me, it seems that
giving up alcohol was not merely a simple step in
which he turned the
drinking switch OFF. I am starting to believe that
giving up alcohol and trying to turn his life around
was part of an effort to erase some of his past and try
to
become a better person. In other words, he may be
completely
reviewing everything else in his life.
I suspect that he wants to use the
trip
to clear his head and decide what he wants to do. My
advice to you will be to let him go enjoy himself on his
trip and then wait for his return. If you were a
loving woman to him all these years and he
appreciates that, he will
come back to you and try to
develop a good relationship. If that does not
happen, then, this man was never right for you: neither
as an
addict, nor as a
teetotaler. |
