| Gina
writes, "I have read your
article about ptsd. My
husband is getting ready to deploy to Iraq in a
month. He is already acting like he doesn't love me
anymore. I don't understand and it is killing me. I love
him so much and want to be with him always. I don't know
how to get through to him. He is at the base in
Germany. I am scared that my
marriage is crumbling beneath me. I don't want this
to happen and I need help, but don't know where to turn
to get it. He won't seek
counseling,
he already said that. I just want the man back that I
married. The
Military is screwing up the American
family life. I
pray to God every day and I don't know what else to
do. I wish someone would help."
PTSD may show up just from listening to others'
experiences
Based on what you describe, it is
likely that he is
really stressed out. Have you spoken to anyone in
his unit and told them about it? I do not doubt that
Major Nidal is a
terrorist
but he was also traumatized by news of his deployment
(if his symptoms were spotted earlier the tragedy in
Fort Hood could have been prevented). It is very likely
that your husband is merely feeling the jitters of going
into combat but it is better that people in his unit
know that he may need more help than he is getting.
He may also be experiencing some
PTSD based on stories of other troops.
Is there a way that you can
get on a plane and to to
Germany for a few days to meet him before he
flies out to
Iraq?
Also try to reach out to his friends/family members and
other wives like you to see how to communicate to him
and let him know that he is loved by all. |
