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Amanda
writes, "I just recently got
dumped by a guy who is in the
army. He claims he doesn't
suffer from PTSD, but he broke up with me 3 months
after we
started dating, saying we didn't
have enough
time to spend together. I had been over at his
apartment every day since he had a
surgery which required someone to change his
bandages (which I did). I think he may be suffering from
PTSD but doesn't want to admit it. I am so proud of what
our women and men do for the United States but I feel it
comes at quite a cost."
Denial is a sign of the problem
I am sure that you are aware that when it comes to men,
particularly
men who think of themselves as strong and macho,
admitting any kind of weakness is against their core
beliefs. That is why for him to admit that he has a
problem and that too a
psychiatric problem means that he is admitting to a
weakness and someone in the
military has a hard time doing that.
If you are close to anyone in his family, you might do a
lot of good by reaching out to them and telling them
what you suspect. Hopefully a family member or pastor or
primary care physician may convince him to seek help; it
is hard for a
girlfriend to tell this to a man. |
