Whether teenagers should wear lingerie or not is a controversial topic, but one parent believes that there is nothing wrong with it.
“I’ve managed to get all 3 of my girls to wear thongs now, despite their early reluctance, and they seem to find them more comfortable now that they’ve had a chance to adjust to the different feeling. My youngest is 12 so it’s hard to find thongs in her size but I did manage to find a couple of places that had thongs for age 10-12. Your advice about bras was particularly helpful since my girls hadn’t really been wearing them until we spoke. I had been given, the now admittedly mistaken impression from some articles I read that, their breasts would develop better without bras for the first few years. Since we talked they have been wearing bras regularly and in fact all 3 of them have said that they now prefer to wear them. I guess I underestimated the importance of supporting the breasts against excessive bounce/jiggle or what have you. Seems to make a big difference in terms of physical comfort. From a psychological point of view, I had hoped that all my daughters would develop bodies that they would feel good about and feel a strong sense of self confidence with, and so far so good. They all have good sized breasts and seem to feel happy about their bodies as they are maturing. I’m wondering if now might be the time to get them some special brassieres they can wear if they want to feel ‘extra’ good about themselves. Perhaps something like a pushup/cleavage bra or a g-string sort of thing. Do you think that’s appropriate or not? What advice do you have as far as shopping for that sort of thing?” the email says.
Regarding teen lingerie, the best way to handle is to let them choose rather than you dictating it to them. That way they can buy what they feel like. I know many parents have huge hangups about teenage fashion and there are long and complex discussions in parents forums about the choice of clothes but personally I feel that as long as kids keep a good balance between their school work, career planning, and fun, parents should treat them with respect and give them the freedom (to at least wear clothes that they want to wear) that they value so much at that age. From my upbringing I know that because I was given so much freedom at home, I did not go nuts when I went to college. Actually, I felt no different in college from the environment at home and that way I did not have to try drugs or alcohol or sleeping around with everyone in school just to declare my independence.