Have More Children
I have never made it any secret that my desire to have another child is equally matched by Joanne’s desire.
Problem is, two women just don’t lay down in bed one day and come up a month later to announce that they are pregnant.
Unfortunately, the higher being, whomever he/she is didn’t give us this ability no matter how messed up I think it is.
Obviously, to have Zadey we adopted. And while having her is the single biggest blessing in my life, adoption is something I’m not exactly sure I can do again. The stress the process had on me isn’t something I care to repeat.
And truthfully, to some extent I still deal with the stresses of adopting Zadey as I am still in contact with her birth-Mom (which I’m no longer sure is a really good idea).
Because Zadey is 2 ½ now we’ve talked even more about “now being the time” to have another before she gets much older. I’m all about spacing so now is a good time.
Removing the idea of adoption is leaves us with few options.
When I was talking to my brother, Doug and his wife, Tish about our plan of action to have a second child I began to tell them a story.
Several years ago I was friends with another lesbian couple who had another lesbian couple as friends and they wanted to have children.
Adoption was not something that they really wanted.
So they took an egg from one of them, sperm from the brother of the other, and the other one carried the baby the her wife’s egg and her brother’s sperm produced.
It was their perfect combination of having a child as if they were to have created the child themselves. In the end, the brother gave up parental rights and the lesbian couple went on to raise their child.
Initially, I admit this sounded a bit strange to me. I mean, carry your brother’s child? But in reality this isn’t the first time is has happened; it’s actually quite normal to ask your sister to be a surrogate so why couldn’t a sister ask the same of a brother.
Joanne and I may never be able to have a single child that carries both of our DNA if it wasn’t for the process of something like this.
When I finished telling my Doug and Tish the story, Doug offered to donate.
Really?
You would?
Wow, I wasn’t even thinking of that; just explaining what I know other lesbian couples have done.
It was an interesting proposal and one that I think we may look into.
But this much is certain. 2008 will be the year we finalize our plans for this other child and proceed to take action or it won’t be happening again for us.
As of today, Joanne is 34. She doesn’t really want children past 35 so now is a good time for her age and Zadey’s (I on the other hand have plenty more time to have children).
At any rate, I thought I’d share our new adventure. I’ll soon be looking into more information on creating such a child, cost and of course, scheduling an appointment with my doctor.
This ought to be interesting.
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