| Brenda
writes, "I am a
pregnant teenager but since I
became pregnant my
boyfriend
has been mistreating me in the hope that we will
breakup (I think his
parents
also want us to breakup). I don't think it is about
him
not wanting to be a dad. He has asked me that if we
break up will I let him
have full custody, which makes me think he only
wants to be with me because he wouldn't get full
custody.
Should I leave him if he's only with me because of
the baby? Or should I stay and see if
he does love me?" Teen
pregnancy is hard on the couple and the families
As you probably know better than me,
this was sudden and unexpected for the two of you. You
both are very young and were simply unprepared for this
huge responsibility. Obviously, it is natural to be
completely confused. I am suspecting that he is probably
very confused at this time and is
struggling to deal with his emotions. I wouldn't be
surprised that there is something else that you may not
even know that is making him feel as
if he does not love you. Who knows he may blame you
for putting him in this spot or you
getting pregnant (don't give in on any of this,
though; he is an equal partner in all of this and I
always expect a
man to
use protection even if the
girl is on
the birth control pill just to be extra careful -- a
pregnancy is a big deal).
I wouldn't advise you to leave him right now. Under
pressure from mother
Sarah Palin,
Bristol and
Levi Johnston split up and I cannot see how this is
good for both of them or their child Tripp. The
closer you two are, greater the chances are that you may
be able to
work
on your relationship. I am also hoping that the
childbirth will bring you two even closer together.
So stay with him, if possible, but of course not if you
are
unhappy,
depressed, or miserable. If you leave even before
the child comes, you will end up being a
single mom and we all know how hard that is. |
