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Brenda
writes, "There is this guy that told me how he felt
about me. At the time I was kind of trying to
attract
another man and this guy I did not like much so I
did not pay much attention to what he said. As the other
man did
not work out and I thought about this man, I
realized that he was actually a
good man and it was stupid of me to ignore his
feelings for me. When I told him I now liked him back,
he said I was just saying that but I really wasn't, so
we are
just friends now but I know he likes me a lot and I
really like him too but he doesn't believe me. What
should I do?"
You
know how they talk about the power of
first impressions. Well, that is what is the problem
here. Since you were initially not interested, he
concluded that you never really liked him genuinely and
if you like him now it is because he told you about his
feelings or you are now taking pity on him.
There
are several ways to tell him how you feel. Write down in
a letter exactly how you feel and be totally honest.
That should work. Additionally, if you use a good friend
of his to tell him about your feelings, that might help
to. In the meantime be
nice and warm to him and he should be able to see
your feelings for him.
If
none of this works, then, you might have to forget about
this man, because
he may
have low self esteem.
Men like that have a hard time believing that a
beautiful woman can like them, and if they are
rejected once, they struggle to
trust any women. |
