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Ralph, a
married
man is attracted to the best friend of his wife and
would love to
have a
good time with her occasionally. She appears to be
happily
married but Ralph suspects that her
husband
may not be able to satisfy her in bed because of his
poor health. Due to the risks involved, Ralphs has
simply watched her
flirt with
him and
make
passes at him whenever they
hang out
together. "I give you full points for suggesting to
lie low and let it evolve, but you know sometimes the
anxiety gets on top of everything else. I met her
today after a few days, but she seemed a different
person altogether, kind of indifferent, a little
distant, and perhaps totally oblivious to any such thing
in the pot. Suddenly I felt that I may have misread her
body language and assumed she was
interested in me simply based on the fact that I
wanted it to happen and that
I like her
very much myself. While I try to take things slowly
one at a time and let it blossom into something I may
cherish for a long time to come, please give me some
advice on how to assess the situation right, and what
signals should I look for to at least be sure that I'm
not misplaced and that I'm reading her right," he
writes.
A married woman struggles with
guilt and temptations when liking other men
I do
agree with you that since you like her so much every
action is viewed by you with a bias and that is why you
might misread some things. Hopefully, with time, you
will get a clearer picture. I wouldn't attach a lot of
significance to today's behavior. We all feel different
levels of
emotions every day. Aren't you more
romantic on certain days than others? That is how
every one is.
I have personally found the
eyes of a woman to be the most indicative of her
heart. Secondly, actions speak louder than words. If you
notice that she consistently makes an effort to see you
then something is definitely up. I also am expecting
that from now on you will be just a tad warmer towards
than her than you have been so far. Rather than being
aloof, courteous, and business-like, you want to come
across as someone warm, friendly, and appreciative of
her efforts to
entertain you and your wife.
So be patient, the new phase has just started. See how
things evolve over next few weeks and do not do anything
stupid (my guess is that you are a
mature man) and we will know for sure. Here is the
other fun part that we have not talked about yet. In
case she
was never interested in this, if you act warmer.
friendlier, and give her a hint of your fondness for
her, for all we know, she might now become interested.
No woman
has ever been able to resist a man who appreciates
her (this is even more true for
married
women whose husbands often take them for granted).
Depending on the circumstances, she may reward you with
a
smile or with her heart and body. I know from
personal experience that even
nuns
appreciate
attention from men. |
