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Celine
writes, "These past two weeks I have been talking to one
of my managers at work till 4 AM in the morning. I have
to come to realize
we have so much in common and think alike. I believe
I am falling for him, hard. He is 40 years old and I am
only 19.
He is also married and has a child from a previous
marriage. Our
feelings for each other are mutual and we both know
about it. Yet we also know, because of our positions at
work we are not able to be together and also because he
is not
single. Sometimes when I talk to him I get very
bitter, wondering
why he is still with his wife and accusing him of
playing with me. That he
gets the best of both worlds. One woman at home to
go to and another
woman to flirt with. I'm
young and there are other men that want me but I
turn them down for him. I feel it isn't fair and feel
duped by him. What should I do? I like him, I do. But
I'm starting to think I'm just wasting my time with
someone who has no intentions of
leaving his wife and being with me."
Typical man with a midlife crisis
wants to have an affair
This scenario couldn't be any more
classic than that. A
middle aged man, either
married or in a
serious relationship, tries to
deal
with his midlife crisis by
seducing a younger woman to
fuel his
ego that he is still a
stud and
young women like him. Once his intentions are
discovered, he moves on and tries the same with yet
another
young girl who is not wise enough to appreciate the
tricks a
manipulative man can use.
I think you are starting to see the signs, and I am glad
that you have not gone very far with him. Before you get
any more involved in this, it is best to politely (you
do not want to anger him because he could hurt you at
work) decline any more late-night conversations. Tell
him that you thought about it and it is inappropriate
for you to
date to a man in a relationship, even though you
think he is a great man and wish that you two met
earlier.
Not everything is meant to be. I mean I would love to
marry
Megan Fox but I can't. He maybe exactly who you
want, but trust me, you are just 19 and will meet a lot
of
awesome men that will not have the
baggage that this man has. While I am not opposed to
dating older men if that is what you like, but you
always want to
date a man who is single -- life is simpler that
way. |
