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How can I always be the only woman my man
thinks of?
Pick your man carefully
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Summary: If you want a man
to love you alone, then you need to make sure that you
are with the right man. |
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Leanne
writes, "I am 21 and still in
university. So my
boyfriend
and I have been together for a little over a year, but
were
best friends before we
became lovers. When we started going out there was
this girl
who had a boyfriend, who then dropped her. My
boyfriend
immediately started to
hang
out with her and her friends (including someone he
used to like). At first I just shrugged it off because I
don't want to keep him back from friends, but it got to
the point
where he was always with them. If I needed to find him,
I just needed to look for them. I told him about it and
just a tad bit was done. Nowadays he has all
these
secret jokes with them and it's like he confides in
them more than me. I don't feel the
best
friend bond that we used to have, nor do I feel the
girlfriend bond. He has told me that nothing is
going on, but it's gotten to the point where the only
time I feel special, is when we're alone and nobody is
distracting him. Am I still a priority?"
A lot
of
men do not like serious relationships when they are
in
college. To them
college is about having a good time, hanging out
with friends, and having
casual sex.
This boy-friend of yours appears to be in that phase. I
think you are more inclined to have a
serious relationship but he sees you as a special
friend rather than a
girlfriend. There is also a possibility that he sees
this other girl as a better person than you.
It is also clear that he likes the group of friends that
he has more than you. Maybe he doesn't think that you
are as much fun to be around. It may be only
a matter of time that he realizes (and says so) that
things are not working out between the two of you.
So you can either
end the relationship cordially and still be friends
with him. Or, see how things evolve over time. If you
would like my personal advice, I like the option one
better because that way you can still not have a
heartbreak,
maintain your friendship with him, and then be free
to
find another
relationship on your own timeline. You are still a
young girl and have plenty of time and opportunities
to
find that strong bond with someone. |
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