Summary: Tips for women
interested in dating first or second generation
Japanese-Americans.
Leanne
writes, "I've been on an
online dating website for a few weeks now and just
recently I received an email from a
Japanese-American gentleman who is interested in
learning about me. I don't have enough to go on to
determine if he's interested in an LTR but the
possibility seems to be there. I just find myself a
little bit surprised that he would contact me! He is
originally from St. Louis and is now a corporate lawyer
in NYC. I'm what you would consider a 'voluptuous'
woman, 45 (he's 38 and
fit) and based on what limited knowledge I have,
mostly from
myths I'm sure, I guess I just find it unusual that
he would be interested in me. He claims to love my
smile
and thinks it's a reflection of
how I am inside - 'beautiful' is the word he used.
I've been on your site today reading and trying to learn
what I can about
Japanese men but mostly the information is geared
toward
Japanese men IN Japan. How do Americanized
Japanese men differ, or do they? I know it seems
like an ignorant question but when I say I'm new to this
- I'M NEW TO THIS! HELP"
No it is not an ignorant question and definitely worth
asking. I like to believe that there are no stupid
questions and I answer all questions.
Write
to me here if you want to ask a question or if you
just want to
anonymously share a story or comment say it here.
Now as you know America is a melting pot and we have
people who come in all sorts of flavors. I have seen
people who were born here but still follow the
traditions of their native countries (many
South Koreans,
Indians
and many others keep going back to their native
countries to
find a spouse even if they have more in common with
someone here and nothing in common with people there). I
have also seen people (and I am one of them) who came
here, made it their home and embraced the culture to a
point that they
married an American.
So what is the deal with this Japanese American man?
You will never know till you give him a chance and find
out more about him. He could be as American as an apple
pie or very Japanese who is just venturing out of his
comfort zone and trying to
date an American woman or maybe somewhere in
between. (Related:
Do
Japanese men like American girls?)
My suggestion to you would be to treat him without any
bias at this point. Forget about the
weight difference or any other difference for that
matter. Just go with the flow and treat him like you
would treat any other man. You might as well find out
that he is no different than any man you have dated or
who knows he might even blow your mind away because of
his unique personality. Many of my readers tell me that
they are pretty good at
pleasing women, for example.
