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| I had a fling with a Japanese salaryman
The experience told me that I can still find love
| Summary: Below is the
story of an American businesswoman on a business trip to
Japan found out that she was attractive to men and
capable of finding love. Her very short romance
with a Japanese business man made her realize that she
is ready to date again. |
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| Lena
writes, "I went for a
business trip to Japan and my local contact was a
very
kind Japanese man, somewhat younger than me. I had a
hectic trip, meeting a lot of people trying to strike
some deals and this man made it all possible. During the
time that we are traveling to meetings, I got to know
him a bit and he was just such a
sweet man. When we parted ways after a day full of
meetings and
dinner, I was shocked to find him waiting for me in
my
hotel lobby. The thing I still can't understand - so
why was he was waiting for me in the
hotel, as it'd be much easier and logical for a
practical mind of a
Japanese man just to leave for
Osaka right after our work in Nara was finished.
During the time we were together he
did not
show his emotions at all. You know, I'm responsible
for the
international business development in my company
and, being all the time in the limelight, all the time I
have to think about my reputation. So I have no freedom
to have any
casual relationships anywhere during business trips,
no matter home or abroad, and, at the same time, I
didn't see anybody I could seriously fall for and stay
with. I thought I've got already a sort of a shell over
my heart, so till now I was sure that nobody was
able to punch my armor. I have been
divorced for ten years now and am so absorbed in my
work that I don't even
date any more. In
Japan it was a stroke, I was so deeply fascinated
that I was almost ready to leave everything and stay
there. It was like a jump into the ocean. when I was
jumping in the water it was ok, I was diving, but then,
water turned out to be quite cold. If I was
hypochondriac, I might think that the ending was a sort
of
punishment for me for all the men's hopes I crashed
in my life! So, as my little
blonde brain slowly started to function again and I
realized that he wanted something more than
doing business. After having a
drink in
the lobby bar, we headed to my room and
spent a memorable night in my bed. The next morning
we said
quick goodbyes because he had to rush to his work
and I had a
flight
to catch, but after arriving home I have not heard from
him and he has not responded to my email. I think that
if I still love him, so I definitely
want him to be happy, and if he is
happy
without me, if it's his will and choice, ok I agree that
he has to be totally free of me, free like wind over the
sea. Also I think that our meeting became a real spark
for doing something good that will stay even after me,
an
office in Japan for my employer. Yeah, it might
become a nice memorial to a
Japanese style short love story."
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Talking
about your heartbreaker
Japanese man, what I know about these guys is that they
have a lot of difficulty
dealing with foreigners and due to
cultural differences they do not know what to do. I
think it is very clear that he was very attracted to you and
felt a strong connection with you. My hypothesis is that by
visiting you in the hotel, he just wanted to let you know
that it was both a big hello and
goodbye because he understood that being very practical,
this friendship had no future. And of course, when he went
back, he probably realized that the more he tried to attach
himself to you by maintaining contact, the more difficult it
is going to be for both of you because of the distance. I
also hope that you realize that even if he were single,
Japanese society does not like people marrying foreigners,
and he must have been conscious of that.
So the
good news is that you had this experience that
awoke the dormant love in your heart. Yes, work is
important, but your
personal life is important too, and you need to start
working on your
love life too.
Life goes by and if you do not look, people will assume
that you are not looking. And if that brief moment in time
makes you start a
lifelong relationship with Japan, well, good for you. Go
ahead and do it. You never know what life has in store for
you. And if not him, maybe another
Japanese man will give his heart to you. |
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