Similarly,
a lady who does not want to give her
name, tells MYNIPPON that she has found her Japanese boyfriend to be
extremely caring. She writes, "I have been dating my Japanese
boyfriend for nearly two years, and this month we are moving in to an
apartment together. He is the most thoughtful, generous, kind and
trustworthy man I've ever dated. He's also endlessly beautiful and
fascinating; I could stare into his eyes forever. Because our culture,
history and language are different, there is always something new to
discover, and I never feel bored (which has been a problem in past
relationships). We were introduced through a mutual acquaintance; I
think this type of introduction is very comfortable for Japanese, who
can be rather shy. I recommend to any foreign woman living in Japan to
try and get to know Japanese men. Foreign men in Japan tend to be on
their worst behavior, spoiled by the attention they get from lovely
Japanese women. So I think Japanese men have a lot more to offer foreign
women. My experience has been wonderful." (Related:
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What do these stories mean?
It is hard to generalize, based on these cases,
especially when the sample size is not large enough to draw conclusions
one way or the other. However,
the instances in which
Japanese people have simply left the relationship
and moved on, are so high that these need to be reported so that others
who are either contemplating or are already in a relationship are aware
about these. These
individuals have to understand that cultural differences with Japanese
people are sometimes so great that a lot of work is necessary to make
the relationship work.
A romance is a joint effort by the partners to make
it successful. Rather than
going into a relationship with any preconceived ideas, MYNIPPON would
encourage you to treat your relationship as unique that needs to be
handled in a unique manner according to the circumstances.
What can make a relationship with a Japanese
work?
- Learn
the Japanese language to the extent possible even if your partner
speaks your language. There
is no better way to learn about Japanese culture than to learn the
language. Reading books
is good but not enough to really grasp the intricacies of the
culture that comes from discussions with natives in their native
tongue.
- Keep
an open mind. Japanese
people are not very communicative and a lot of things are just left
unsaid for the listener to interpret based on the context. Be observant and think about the events to come up with
explanations of event rather than take rash decisions.
- Avoid
causing embarrassment. If
they feel that the relationship is not working out, Japanese simply
tend to walk away rather than fight hard to make it work. Don’t hold on to the person and be prepared to move
on.
- The
reasons that Japanese people enter into a romantic relationship are
sometimes quite different than in other cultures.
For instance, Japanese people need to have partners and also
need to be married for cultural reasons after a certain age.
This should enable you to put things in the right
perspective.
Recommended:
Romance Guide for Japan
How
to find a Japanese woman
Japanese
girlfriend at American university campus
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dating Asians
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to Japan Secrets
of Japanese women Manage
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How
to get a Japanese girlfriend? Marriages
in Japan Deborah
Kemp's views on romance Women
dating Asian men
Seduction
of Japanese women One
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American men and Japanese women
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gone wrong with a Japanese A
Japanese man finds relationship with an American woman Japanese
girlfriend
Declining
marriage rate in Japan Breaking
up Japanese style
Relationships
with Japanese women Meeting
Japanese women
Interracial
relationship with a Japanese Challenges
of relationships with Japanese
Experiences
with Japanese women
Relationship
problems with a Japanese woman
How to seduce my Japanese teacher
Dating Japanese American
