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Let
me tell you this –
Love is
easy to find if you know where to look. Several men
all over the world are just
fascinated with Japanese women and continue to
seek
love with them. I am told by many of these people
that there is something
unique about Japanese women. Willow tells me, "Japanese
women have an attitude that says
I am
a WOMAN and I am
what a women is supposed to be: I like
what a woman likes, I do
what a woman does, and I
love men because I am a woman. A lot of people
mistake the
Japanese feminine attitude for servility or
submissiveness, but I find
Japanese women to be some of the strongest women in
the world; they are comfortable in being a woman and
they use their power as women rather than trying to use
power as men do. I love the way
Japanese women treat men and I love being treated
that way; in return, I treat my women as the
Goddesses they truly are with ultimate respect,
love, and work towards a cooperative relationship
pursuing happiness as a couple. I think you can see
this attitude come across in Japan in general - they
have one of the least crime ridden societies in the
world, they are sweet, happy people".
Martyn and I have
been having a long conversation about how this can be
successfully done. He writes to me frequently and tells
me how he has found love with Kyoko, a
Japanese
girl. As he describes her, “The most
wonderful girl - Very polite, very kind, and very
passionate. We met quite recently and found we were very
compatible, but now she is back in
Osaka and I miss her terribly.”
He feels the pain
of love which comes when you are separated from your
lover – what
Kamasutra calls as the “Viyoga” or separation. He
confides in me, “So at the moment it is quite hard to
get through each day when your heart feels heavy - but
Kyoko and I do email as much as possible. But I recently
had a double blow. I lost my job due to company closure.
This will make it more difficult to find a flat - and I
must
find another job if I am to
marry her in my country (England).
But at 37, jobs are harder to find in England
(especially the older you get). But nothing will stop
me from spending my life with her because my heart needs
her love and her compassion, understanding and
tenderness.”
I just think what
a lucky woman Kyoko is to find Martyn. I sincerely hope
that he can find a job so that he can invite Kyoko to
join him.
Martyn and I have
a lot in common and hold similar views on a whole lot of
subjects. One thing that I share with him is the
value
of friends. Despite being in
deep love, Martyn still has a place for me. I have
always wondered why should it be so difficult to
love more
than one person at a time. Why not ten thousand
people? Our society has come up with a system that only
allows
one
lover and I do not agree with that. In fact we call
it
adultery or
promiscuity when we develop affection for someone
who is not our legal lover. I am told that in many
countries it is not only a crime to
love someone other than your legal lover, you could
actually be stoned to death. Wow, that is scary! As
long as our hearts are capable of loving, we should be
allowed to
share
our love with everyone.
As Martyn writes
to me, “I will still write to you, because once I start
to know someone – they become a part of my life and I
don't want to lose contact. I also want to know
about the person underneath. That to me is just as
important as
sexual
pleasure. I'm a man who needs the whole package -
love, respect,
passion, kindness, a
great body, and great personality. Not easy to find
- but in Kyoko I have found that - and you are that too,
but only in the
cyber world.” Well I am glad that Martyn and Kyoko could find each other and are so happy
together.
Martyn also shares
his
passion for writing, “I love writing to people -
because it is the best way for me to express myself. As
a child
I stuttered a lot which caused me great distress, and
never said very much. Now, via writing, I have lots to
say.” |
