Dating married Japanese woman

What a beautiful relationship!

Summary: A man finds love with a married (but in a marriage without love or passion) Japanese woman.

I had always wanted to have a Japanese female pen-pal so I went to a pen-pal website and posted a message. I didn’t give it much thought because at my age (I’m in my forties) the chance of a reply was very small since all messages seemed to be from young men and women. A couple weeks went by before I got this reply from a woman. It was unusual for a Japanese woman to write like that since the email was long and her English was reasonably good. I responded as soon as I could. Very soon the mails started to pour in - we clicked instantly. We started talking about our own personalities and then moved on to her family and other aspects of her life in Japan, which was all so fascinating to me. What impressed Reiko was that I knew quite a bit about Japan and its culture since I am a Japan lover and I read and educated myself even further after I got to know her. Our emails continued to get longer and more frequent. Reiko was using a translation software to write to me so we were able to communicate fairly easily.

The reason she felt comfortable with me was that I always listened to what she had to say and always tried my best to advise her in any way I could. We soon began to build a friendship based on trust, though, I continued to ask myself how could a married woman trust a total stranger she meets on the Net and who is thousands of miles away. I was so amazed that I even told her this. But she told me there was something in my way of writing and my words that made her trust me.

Reiko is 3 years my junior and has 3 wonderful sons. As we continued to build our friendship and got to know each other even more she asked me about my personal life. I told her that I was alone since I broke up with my girlfriend a long time ago. To give you a background about my life, my girlfriend was everything to me. She was my first true love. We were both virgins when we had sex for the first time. We were together for almost 23 years but then something went wrong and on one fateful day she called me up and said it was over. I couldn’t believe it - it was like a nightmare. From then onwards, I fell into deep depression - I shut my self out of the society. I began to hate women and couldn’t trust them any more. After exploring the opportunities provided by online dating, I was amazed. I could now talk to women because I did not have to meet them right away. The online environment allowed me to get over some of my fears of being rejected by women.

Reiko was very sympathetic and understood my whole situation. Sharing our secrets and fears allowed both of us to bond even further. As we got more comfortable with each other, Reiko told me a secret that she said she had not shared with no one in Japan – she hadn't had sex since her last son was born 6 years ago. I was so shocked to hear that and my own pain just disappeared after hearing her sad story. She confided in me that her marriage was an outcome of omiai (arranged marriage) and when she went for her honeymoon her husband slept throughout the night. Her first two sons were conceived through little sex. She knew when her fertile period was and after just one try she got pregnant. Once the kids were born there was no sex at all because her husband was just not a good lover though he was physically capable of it.

Reiko told me that when she wanted a daughter she had to practically beg her husband to be intimate with her. She told me that one night when she knew that she was more likely to conceive, she went into his room and it was over within minutes. She thanked him and waited for the result. She did get pregnant but to her disappointment, the baby was a son. After three children were born she was so absorbed in taking care of them that she did not fully appreciate what she needed to do for her husband. As a result, Reiko and her husband drifted apart and things became so bad that he then lost all interest in her. He also did not make any efforts to mend things – she expected him sometimes to just hold her or cuddle her or buy cute gifts for her.

Reiko was funny in how she described it to me – "he became like a brother to me after that instead of a husband." Reiko even thought that if she could divorce her husband and find another man just to have sex she would but I am told that divorces are difficult in Japan and it is even harder to find a man who would marry a divorcee. She then decided to have an affair since she was so desperate to be with a man.

Let's meet!

Now I didn’t know what came over me but in one email I told her if there was anything I could do to help her I would – alluding to her problem of being so starved. I suggested a romantic dinner and then some private moments with me. I also described how we could get intimate with each other and celebrate our love for each other. I was attracted to her now and I felt that we were both in similar situations. I also felt that I understood her more than any other man and she was also very appreciative of me. However, when I received her reply I was devastated because she told me that she was confused. She also told me that after reading my email, she became so aroused and so weak. I apologized immediately – I was afraid that I had hurt her feelings. When I did not hear from her for several days, I knew that I had lost her trust and such a beautiful relationship was over.

And then the most wonderful email came. She also apologized to me. She said, “Please help me now. You have resurrected the desire in my body. Please give me back this lost feeling.” She even reassured me that I hadn’t hurt her feelings. That was a turning point in our relationship since we now became more explicit in sharing our feelings. If not physically, we definitely became more intimate in words. She told me that her fire was re-ignited, she thought of me all the time, and she had started to please herself again after a long time.

We then started to speak over the phone since emails just did not have the intimacy that the phone offers. Whenever her husband was away, we would speak for hours. We were now much more comfortable with each other and we spoke about everything under the sun, including of course, us. She even started telling me that she 'loved' me. After confessing our love for each other, regular conversations over the phone, and several emails a day, it was rather hard for both of us to continue to suffer like this. In another email Reiko suggested that I visit Japan to meet with her. I was totally shocked since from perfect strangers we were already talking about consummating our online romance.

I am in Japan with Reiko

When I arrived at Kansai Airport, I didn’t know what to expect. I was worried about her not liking me in person since I had heard horror stories of how a perfect online romance can get sour when you meet the person in real life. It looks like Reiko was secretly watching for a little while because when I did not see her I sat down to read a paper. It was not long. I soon felt a pat on my shoulder by this small Japanese woman with a perfect figure. It is hard for me to describe that moment. My blood pressure just rose as I saw her. It was such a magical moment to see someone whom I had tried to imagine in my mind for months. She was a 'black beauty' that day - black top, black skirt, black stockings, and yes even black shoes. I bowed politely and so did she. Her mushroom hairstyle blew me away - the way it was sitting on her head. Actually she looked like an anime actress. She told me we couldn’t hug because there were people she knew who worked there and it was not common to hug people in public unless they were close family members. As we went through this dark alley to buy a drink I stole a surprise kiss. Then we went to her car in the parking lot in the airport.

Now what happened inside her car will always remain in my memory. The location of the parking lot was very secluded. It was quite dark and no one seemed to be around. Besides, her car had curtains and it appeared that we were inside a tiny room. I also noticed that she had pulled the curtain before parking and had parked the car in a remote corner next to a wall. As soon as we settled in the car, there began almost an hour of making our love real for each other. It was clear that desires that were pent up in us for several months could not be controlled anymore now that we were in front of each other. We both were in this situation after many years and that made both of us a bit nervous of course. However, we immediately started to kiss and tried to feel each other’s bodies.

She told me, “Thank you for giving me this sensation again. I was afraid I was going to die without ever having sex in my life.” We also talked a whole lot about our lives. We skipped lunch since I was not hungry and neither was she, but by dinner time we were starving. After having a Japanese meal, we checked into another love hotel and she spent the night with me. She went back home after lunch but during that whole week we had as much as sex as our bodies would allow.

I go to Japan every now and then to be with her. We've fallen so deeply in love. She has two lives now - her normal married life and another life with me which is so full of passion and romance. I've given her back her lost years and am giving what she has been missing and she has been doing the same to me. Now I feel that I can trust women and there are a lot of wonderful women out there.

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