There is one
aspect of
Japanese society that no one seems to talk about
marital lives. While the rest of the world seems to
have an image of Japan as an
over-sexed society (largely perpetrated by the media
both inside and outside Japan), the reality is that a
small group of people is definitely
having a
lot of sex but there is a largely forgotten segment
of the society that is having a horrible time in Japan
the married
with children women. Their
husbands abandon them
for all practical purposes when it comes to sex. Though
there is a broad range of statistics out there about how
many of them do not even
sleep
in the same
bed room any more, I am not sure if that is
important for this discussion. What I do know is that
there needs to be a discussion around it since this is
an urgent matter as important as the economy or
enjo kosai or teaching true
Japanese history.
While
Japanese men are portrayed as hanging out at hostess
clubs or at pink salons or taking
trips to Asia to
have sex
with
young girls, this is a very small group of men. It
also continues to shrink with the decline of power of
Japanese corporation companies no longer send
executives to Asia on long business trips nor do the
Japanese executives have unlimited bonus packages that
allowed them in the past to go on these tours. From what
I have heard most of these men continue to lead
sexless lives, absorbed in their daily routine of
meetings, hardly getting any opportunities for fun.
Why does this system continue to
thrive despite both parties being in miserable shape?
Why dont these
couples
just sit down and do something about it? I do not have a
simple answer to this. I have heard in the past that men
and women find all sorts of ways to
satisfy
their sexual needs. Men will pay for female company,
buy AV (if you
live in Japan your mailbox everyday will be stuffed
with flyers for videos whether you are man or
woman, whether you buy them or not, whether you are
single or a family. In fact, these flyers are placed
in your mailbox not by the mailman but by either
teenagers or
housewives who get paid for it and this is
considered a job as respected as that of a newspaper
delivery person), or read
explicit magazines or books, visit all kinds of
adult entertainment parlors.
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Women on the other hand have rather
limited choices they will occasionally pay for
it either by finding a student who needs some
extra cash or contacting a
male prostitute, some will take
part-time lovers (the ones that speak
English go for the foreigners under the pretext
of learning English),
use sex toys, or just
continue with their lives hanging out with
friends in similar situation, or engaging in a
hobby that becomes a passion for them. |
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