| Sri
writes, "I'm
Thai woman. I went to
Tokyo for the first time last year on a
business trip and I met a
Japanese man. He was a training officer of my
course. On the very first day of the course when I was
going to the drugstore near the seminar venue he
followed me and we had a short
conversation and walked together. He greeted me in
Thai language and that impressed me a lot. He is very
cute and looks a bit
cold as most Japanese guys. I asked him to find
something for me and he asked my e-mail for sending
information to me. After 23 days of training I went back
to my country. He e-mailed me asking for pictures and I
sent him those promptly. We had some e-mail
correspondence around 6-8 times within a period of 6
months. He said in the e-mail that he would be happy if
I could
come to Japan again. I told him that if he comes to
Thailand I will guide him to many places. Then he
replied to me that he will
go to Thailand very soon, and he wanted to see me.
As I would like to stay close to him I applied to a
University in Japan the University asked me for an
interview next week. I e-mailed to him that I would like
to see him in
Tokyo.
But he never returned my mail. I am so confused! Now I
feel I miss him very much. His silence is really hurting
me. What should I do? Can I call him? He gave me his
phone number when I was in
Tokyo
last year but I never called him. I just fear that maybe
he did not open his email. But if it is his intention
not to reply my mail then I do not want to be a
stalker.
I am 38 while he is around 28 and that is why I am a bit
apprehensive. What should I do?"
Never assume anything
Email is not always reliable; it can end up in spam
sometimes. Also he could be busy or sick? So I would say
give him a call and tell him that since he did not
respond and time is short you wanted to make sure that
he was OK and that you would really like to meet him.
Try to sense his
attitude; if he is nice and warm and makes plans to
see you, then it simply means that he was busy and did
not read his email but if he tries to find an excuse not
to see you and sounds cold, then maybe something has
changed, for example, he
found another girl. In that case, it is best to
leave him alone and
move
on. You may also want to rethink if you still want
to
attend a university in Japan without being able to
pursue a relationship with him. |
