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Games
and conversation starters for couples
How
to talk to other couples, new people, and make friends?.....By Liz
Frehls
In
answer to the question posed earlier in the MYNIPPON survey, "Should you
tell a woman if she looks good?" the answer is a resounding
YES! I am a 33-year-old
happily married woman. I occasionally dress very bold and I love it when men (and
sometimes women) comment about how good I look.
I wear a 36D bra so I don't have the liberty of dressing cool as often as I would like as
the giggle factor has to be considered.
But I love to show what I have and have been encouraged by my
husband to show off as much as I like.
He loves it too. I do
not dress cheap since that takes the fun out of the game and
you don't attract the right kind of audience.
We have used my appearance and style as a great conversation
starter with other couples and to make friends with new
people.
With
the encouragement of my husband, we have developed something of a game
like you described on MYNIPPON.COM. My
husband loves to watch men and women looking at me and admiring me. He loves it when
someone comes up to me and tells me they love to admire my looks. When
most men tell me about how good I look, they start off by commenting
about something I am looking at if I am shopping or they will comment
about something I am wearing.
Most
men act very gentleman-like and sometimes seem rather nervous (a note to
men and women: if a woman is showing something for sure, she will
appreciate nice comments). Once
they have made the "I love how you look"
comment, I always thank them for their comments and for noticing and this seems to put them more
at ease. I can usually tell
by how they act - whether this is the first time they have told a woman
about her looks or if they are "real players" and have made
comments to many women about their appearance.
(Related article: How
to start a conversation with women in the mall?)
I
had
one man once even ask me what kind of bra I was
wearing. He
wanted to get a bra just like it for his wife.
I thought that was a great way to
get the conversation started.
In fact I have had women ask me about my bras on more than a few
occasions.
(Related article: How
to break ice with women?)
 My
husband loves to approach women and tell them he loves their style. And I encourage him
to do so alone while I stand back and watch.
But a man must be careful
how he approaches and speaks to the woman.
Sometimes we work as a team since it always helps to have a woman
in such situations - it seems less threatening. He
lets me start the conversation and make the first comment and then he joins in by telling the woman,
"Your husband is a very lucky man to have a wife with such a lovely
body."
We
have even tried another approach where he comments to a lady and I join in
as if we do not even know each other.
This gives my husband the opportunity to comment about her looks and mine too! I make a
comment praising him for having the
guts to tell a lady how nice she looks
and he gets to praise me for showing my
body.
This has led to some very interesting conversations. I love to watch my husband talking to other women about their
bodies. The extent to how
excited he gets can be very noticeable at times.
And the woman he is talking to has noticed on many occasions.
We played various forms of this "game" for over 7 years
and we both have found that it is so much fun to start a conversation like
this.
When I am out shopping by myself and someone comments about my body I can hardly wait to get home and tell my husband every
detail. And he is the same
way about telling me when he has told some lady about her looks or style.
(Related article: Advice
to shy people on starting a conversation)
Shopping
at flea markets, antique stores, etc. offer many opportunities to play.
I love to wear a low cut top or a
sleeveless top (like
Ali Larter) that allows some
"show" opportunity. I love to bend over in front of a clerk pretending to look at
some item giving them the chance to check out what I have.
Recently we had a man admit that he had "lost his
concentration" on what we were discussing due to him
looking down my
blouse, checking me out. I said that was OK. He
said, "No, it is not OK - it was great!
You
have a great looking body
and that you have made my day." He
thanked me (us) for coming into his shop and to be sure to come back.
We assured him we would. And
we will.
(Related:
Simone Perele Argentina lingerie)
The
first time a man told me he loved how attractive I looked I really did not know how to react.
I was young and inexperienced.
Now I look forward to comments like that and I am always sure to
say, "Thank you for noticing."
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