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My
conversations with Charles really made him think again
about his
expectations from Japanese women and what he
needs to do get to know them. He has told me that he is
in Hawaii to meet a beautiful Japanese woman, a
date set
up for him by a friend. He writes, "My friend says she
is perfect for me. I am reluctant but I'm going anyway
because he says she is 25,
cute and Japanese, which
turns me on very much but I just don't like being set
up. It gives me a sense that I don't know the willies, I
guess but I still am
looking for a good woman to be with
anytime. Could you do me a favor and tell me some good
Japanese phrases to use. I know the basics but I can't
sweep a woman off her feet. You don't
learn that in
Japanese class. I wish I could sweep you off your feet
but I fear I'm a bit of a novice in that respect. It
might make you laugh hysterically at me but it's hard
for me since I'm
21 and still a virgin. I work hard to
keep my virginity but it's tough sometimes and no matter
how much I would love to lose it to some women I know.
I've actually been turned down because of my
virginity
too. I think it's getting to that time that I can't
take it any more. I mean I could really try hard to
pleasure a woman and I feel that I will do pretty good
but I'll never know unless I try and I can't do that
because I'm too inexperienced on the relationship side.
I'll get there though I have confidence to spare but I
do need your help with the Japanese phrases. I would
like to know some vocabulary to use on a date or during
a
night of passion -
romantic,
sexy stuff they don't
teach you in school. Just think of some good words and
list them. I want this woman to know I am willing to go
the distance to learn how to please her and if
communicating in her language is what it takes then so
be it."
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Well I am so happy for the
woman that Charles is seeing but it is terribly
wrong to think that
Japanese language will
turn
us on and would make a huge difference. I talked
to several women and they all agreed that their
expectations from a non-Japanese lover is that
as long as they treat them well, language does
not matter. |
They all seem to understand the
English romantic phrases and in fact
Japanese men
increasingly use "I love you" or "I like you" to express
their feelings. My recommendation to Charles is to just
be what he is in real life and how he would behave with
any other special girl in his life and things should go
just fine. I am also told that
Japanese
girls are more
gentle in general and that should make Charles more
comfortable while he
loses his virginity. |
