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A certain man came out of an
abusive relationship. He moved on but refused in his mind to accept that there were better people out there who he could love and they would love him back. He decided to keep dating without a commitment the excuse being that he got ‘flashes’ of bad scenes from his previous relationship and he was afraid to even commit or trust another woman again. Because of this thing in his mind, he was not able to see that he was being selfish towards those who wanted to give him their love. One day his girlfriend decided to leave him. It never bothered him. Another day he discovered what he had lost but it was too late - the ex-girlfriend was married. Chances are that in his next relationship he may become a possessive man, as he will suffer from fear of losing his partner since he allowed his fear of trying again defeat him.
When you lose this battle of overcoming your fears, just know that you will live with it the rest of your life as a defeated person in that area you failed to deal with and in some cases it will be the cause of your death.
(Related:
How to get
a divorce from abusive husband?) |
 Don’t wait
until it’s too late. Do it today and don’t be afraid.
Yes you can do it. Don’t worry about people laughing at
you; chances are they won’t. Believe in yourself and do
the right thing for yourself. If you don’t want to hear
the words, “If you had come earlier we could have…”
That tooth that has been giving you so much pain and your fear of losing a tooth might just happen if you don’t visit the dentist soon. If your heart is still aching from that break up with your man and you never spoke to someone about it, now is the time stop postponing and go see you counselor, friend or relative you trust and talk about it. That itch and pain may need medical attention, that cough you have had for a month – go see your doctor. You said you would go back to school after Sue turns 7, so a New Year is coming up go and enroll for that course. Start that business now and rewrite those paper you failed last semester. Go learn how to swim, what if your son/daughter falls in the pool and you are the only one around. Will you just sit and watch? That car is still parked in the garage. You survived the accident. I think five years is too long a time for healing. I suggest you first start driving in the neighborhood and then go on the highway. Get on that plane if you will ever overcome the fear of flying since there is no other way out.
Remember this, we have one life and an opportunity to choose to live a fulfilled or unfulfilled life. We are on this planet for a certain period but we all don’t know for how long. So it would be unwise to fear that if I get on a plane I will die in a crash or car accident because nobody really knows.
Life is a game of taking chances and risks, and if you don’t, you may never know what you could have done for somebody or yourself.
Civilization came about because the explorers and missionaries had dreams and to achieve them meant facing danger, but they traveled over lands and seas to get their message across. They didn’t fear the jungle, wild animals and the native people because they believed in their vision and took the risk. Others died but their names live on because they were brave and have left a legacy and it lives on. No one remembers the fearful and timid ones
(Social
anxiety). Maybe the number of years assigned for your life is 100 years and you were afraid to do certain things. You will regret and wish the clock could be turned back but that never happens. |
