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writes, "I always had
strong friends that always had my back, but that was
BEFORE I started to have my current
boyfriend. After I told my friends that I was going
out again after a massive
heartbreak, they somehow got mad at me, and thought
my new
boyfriend would distance me away from them. After 2
months, my friends started to realize he wasn't taking
me away, but then I couldn't
go to her party because of a
date I promised him and now she's upset because he
is taking me away. He really isn't! Sometimes I think I
spend more time with her and my friends than I
spend with
my own BOYFRIEND! I am starting to think my
friends
are backstabbers because when I was in my OLD
relationship, they were with me, telling me to forget
our
mall dates and
go to the movies with HIM, but now they give me cold
shoulders and don't talk to me until I say sorry or "Can
I make it up?" Please help. What should I do about my
friends?"
Friends do not put
conditions on friendship
Something like this does happen when
you are too close to your friends and have spent years
doing almost everything together. Now if they are
single, then it could be that they simply miss having
you as part of the gang and fear that the group might
disintegrate or will be less fun because you are no
longer there and that upsets the integrity of the group.
I also fear that since things are different with this
man compared to the previous boyfriend maybe they are
jealous that you found this man. Is the new
guy more handsome or richer or something else that
is awesome about him? In that case,
jealousy could be a major reason.
In my opinion, while
friends are important, you need to
focus on your relationship. Friends come and go but
if you
find
the right guy you can
get married and
start a new life. I wouldn't be surprised that these
friends do not even call you if they have a major change
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