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Sandra
writes, "This email is to ask you
how I could lighten up and start doing a few things
I wish to do, with less
fear of its consequences. I will tell you a little
about my background. I am 37 years old, middle daughter
of 3 girls. My husband and I
met at university and I pretty much knew I would
spend my whole life with him. I am quite an
instinctive person. He is strong, righteous and
family loving. I can sincerely say I have
married for the better, even though I did not know
this at the start. Our
children are happy and healthy. It is an ideal life.
But now I have a burning urge to
take chances in my life. So tell me,
how does one know what one’s passion is? How can I
do things without fear of consequences?"
I
would have asked this question a bit differently and I
am assuming that you are thinking along my lines. I
would like to think that you meant to ask 'without fear
if failure.' I think we should think about consequences
all the time. For instance, I think if you want to drive
100 MPH, I want you to think of consequences like
getting a ticket and putting your and life of other
drivers on road in danger. But it is a nice mission to
have to be able to do things and
make
decisions without fear of failure or mistakes.
People who
succeed in life are the ones who keep trying,
learning from mistakes, and then improving it. The
losers are those who never even try because they are
afraid of failure. This is not something I just made up;
there are countless stories in the world of innovation,
research, and creative areas where those who went ahead
were the ones who
kept pushing the limits, fell down,
wiped their knees, and restarted right back. To me this
principle should apply to trying your own
recipe for cabbage soup to finding a
cure for cancer. |
