| Summary: When a married
man cheats, he is not only breaking the trust with his
wife (there is no justification for adultery; it is
better to work on improving your
marriage, and if that does not work, then get a divorce,
and find love again), he is also playing with the
emotions with the lover, especially if he is
creating hope in her mind about a serious relationship
with her, or is lying about her marital status.
For those women who date married guys or for those dudes
who engage in such extramarital relationships, here are
the thoughts of a wonderful woman who got charmed by a
married man, who eventually broke her heart, and went
back to his wife. |
My
lover feels
guilty for cheating, obviously realizes that he has
made a mistake and shouldn't have
had a relationship with me. He has since
gone back
to his wife after he could not resist the pressure
from her and their families to
work on their marriage. He has completely
stopped calling me after professing his
never
ending love for me in the four months that we were
together. I don't understand how you can just
forget
someone you know who loves you very much and not
care how they are, even if you are occupied by your
children/family. I have
learnt this
lesson in life with quite a lot of
heartache, but maybe this is the only way the
Universe knew I will learn, and the lesson goes:
- Love yourself and know how
you deserve to be loved;
- Talk is cheap - action speaks for
itself;
- Don't live in denial
yourself because it makes it worse because already
your man is lying to you - don't do it to yourself;
- See things for what they are -
don't drop your standards and by humoring
being with a married man makes you
lower your self respect for yourself, it scars
your
self-worth you feel for yourself, and most
importantly, you'll settle for being second best in
your next relationships.
As hard as it is sometimes to
understand why these things (affairs
with married men) happen to people, I believe today
that we are here to learn lessons in our lifetime. God
didn't put us here just to
earn money and I believe that LOVE is the only way
for us humans to grow. Some of us, like myself, need a
harder
lesson in life to know our own value and worth, as
for some woman/men have learnt these lessons before and
have grown emotionally through other ways, a few of us
need a more powerful wakeup call to realize that this
way is not the right way and look for another
way to go on in life - especially when it comes to a
life
partner.
I am certain that being in a
relationship with a married man is NOT A
RELATIONSHIP, but the opposite; it is the loneliest
place to be, because you are giving so much to your
"partner" who is not even with you but with his wife.
You let yourself down if you are
involved
with a married man.
I hope this helps a lot of women out there and and send
a message to wives on
how to stop their husbands from having an affair. I
hope it will stop a lot of women (both the wife and the
mistress) to get hurt, and more importantly, it will
prevent LOVE from being made cheap like an
extramarital affair can make it. I am embarrassed
that I lowered my standards on love like this, but that
was the only way for me to learn the lesson. |
