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I never
would like to use the term 'the
price
of love' because it is not a commodity - you can not
measure and similarly it can not be priced. But what my
reader Don meant was that
love can only be obtained after making sacrifices
and that is why it comes at a price. Well, I am not an
economist but may be they can use some complex
differential equation to demonstrate to me that after
all everything has a price.
Don writes, "My experience has taught
me that love can come at a dear price. The more
incredible the woman, the more dear the price of
having her. The cost may be extracted over time from
your
wallet, your time, your
emotional involvement, your physical attachment.
There are many ways to pay for love. It may even cost
you your life.
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Years ago I met a
European girl at a local college. I saw her
twice before speaking to her. The third time I
walked up to her and introduced myself and we
exchanged telephone numbers. But, she asked
that she be allowed to call me instead of me
calling her. So be it! |
Within two days she called and we had
a
wonderful conversation. She called several other
times and our interest in each other grew until finally
it was obvious we wanted to be together. By that time
she approached me on
campus and began
kissing me in front of the library. I became
embarrassed because she lost control of herself and put
her hand on my back in front of everybody. This routine
continued for a couple of weeks until she admitted she
lived with another man.
The man she lived with had lost her favor with because
he had hit her in public. After probing her a little
more I learned that his manner of treatment toward her
was in fact
emotionally abusive. I warned her that as she showed
her independence he might grow more violent. So, it
became obvious that she needed to move away. I found a
little room for her near my place and we planned her
escape. Unfortunately, she left clues for her boyfriend
and he figured them out. The last night there he slapped
her around and threatened her. He called me and
threatened me also. But, my friends drove over to her
house and picked her up without threatening this guy.
He pined at losing her, but it was
over. He called me a few times wanting to know where she
was. As his
loneliness
grew his threats became more violent until finally I had
to tell him that I had all of his personal data; drivers
license, address, phone numbers, job numbers,
everything. If he continued this nonsense I was going to
report him to law enforcement. You see, he did not know
me by face, or where I lived. The threat was very real
of course as I do mean business when it comes to
protecting family and friends.
As our
relationship grew we
fell in love and eventually went to her home
country. Her family had been concerned for her life with
this other man and were glad to know that I had helped
her get away from him. As repayment they treated me to a
vacation
with room and board and let me have a room with their
daughter to sleep with. Her tensions ebbed away and
we
made love everywhere, the sailboat, the
archipelagos, the forest, and of course the bed. It was
great.
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It took that
vacation to get over the tensions that her
ex-boyfriend's threats were creating. He tried many
types of scams to lure me into a place where he could
attack me. He would not stop until I sent some people to
his apartment to help him clearly understand the trouble
he was creating for himself. My new
girlfriend was scared all of the time, and I had to
look over my shoulder until we flew to
Europe for a great vacation. |
The price of love was chivalry. By sacrificing my safety
I gained a
true love that lasted five years and gave me a great
deal of joy."
Well, what a beautiful story and I
thought I should share it with everyone. While I have
still not fully appreciated the economics of love, I get
the point. Don has been fascinated not only with me but
with
Oriental women in general. He shared this story with
me when I asked him to tell me about his past lovers. He
writes, "I have released and forgiven everyone who has
not appreciated me fully. That includes
past girlfriends. I have gone through a rebirth of
sorts, and use the past as a great lesson. But, I am old
enough and strong enough to
move
on and accept the new. My admiration and willingness
to love truly is to this date unrequited. I think
people
need to be physical to love each other. As a man, I
want to
be
physical, but I learned about
true love by not being able to be with the one I
loved many years ago. Our separation was forced by
circumstances not by our
cheating
or
losing interest. I finally had to release her from
my
desire to love her because it became obvious that
after two years we would not be able to meet again. One
must move
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