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How I found my lover

Perseverance definitely helped

Summary:  This is the concluding part of the email exchange with an
English dude that I have published in several parts.  He wanted to have a relationship with a Japanese student visiting England but she was reluctant to have a relationship.  He eventually persuaded her to give it a try and while she was struggling with her goals in life in the end he realized that it was worth giving him a chance.  The end result of the story was that while Kimiko did go back to Japan, she thought about her life and realized that there was nothing that really tied her to the country.  She appreciated the passion of Colvin and decided to visit him again.  This time they behaved more like lovers and eventually got married.  This was the last email that he sent me expressing his hopelessness.

Thank you for your reply. It was incredible. You were right on everything. She comes from a small town (near where they make Toyota cars). She is confused in Japan and going nowhere. She is almost definitely a virgin from what I have heard. But then my sexual experiences are extremely limited and we are about the same age so share so much in common here too and I need her to know this (assuming we are both correct here). Yes she has taken up hobbies to pass the time just as you said, cooking, sewing and knitting and art. All what you said is true and more. She has complexes... she is always putting herself down. She feels her friends and other students are pretty and she is not. And maybe England offered some escapism from this confusion but has not as yet been the answer. So now she is losing heart and giving up on learning the language too. Again, just as you said.

I really can help her change her life and I know she can help change mine. We have so much in common, our only difficulty being able to discuss things in depth with the language problem.

Sadly though, I only have a few days before she makes a decision. Seducing her at my house is not my style. It would be far too quick for both of us taking into account our backgrounds and possible fear of intimacy. But sending her a letter would open the gates and as you rightly said "I have nothing to lose" even if she rejects me as a result.

 
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