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| How to find a girlfriend in highschool?
What can I do to win her over?
| Summary: Below is the
dilemma of every teenager in high-school who wants to
badly and madly fall in love with a girl that he likes.
Since girls mature earlier than boys and do a better job
of picking the guys they like, they do break many
hearts, but it is also an opportunity for boys to learn
about love and dating so that they can appreciate the
women's perspectives later on life. |
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Philippe
writes, "I am 17 and so is she. We have been
talking for a while. I don't want to rush. I
walk her to class and we
kiss and hug. We have been really busy in
school, at a point where we both agreed that we
were too busy to hang out a week where we had a
big presentations to do. A
conversation, which I knew would somehow
come up as we came out of the library. She says
she wasn't
ready
for a relationship. And I knew either there
is another guy involved or she is having
second thoughts about me. This was our first
deep conversation. She started saying that I
will
go off to college and
meet other girls. This is where I got
irritated and said, 'Sure there are many girls
out there, but only one of you." We have so much
in common, so I refuse to
let this girl go. I told her to at least
give me a chance. Yeah, I am well aware that we
will move off to
college, but I'm thinking now of how much
happiness she gives me. I want something
special before I
head off to college, because all my other
relationships lasted less than a year. It's
just amazing how much we have in common. As I
write this, I'm liking her even more and I'm
thinking how crazy she has me about her. And yes
I know there would be a cost of losing her, but
how else will I know she actually meant
something in my life. That's something I told
her. Something else that I hate girls saying, 'I
don't want to
hurt you." |
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| Philippe continues, "Not all girls
said that to me, but the ones that do, irritate me. I'm
not a player by the way. But, she said that, so since it
happened to me before, I responded by saying, 'I don't
want to
hurt you either, I'm just taking my time with you
because I'm really into you and I don't want to mess up
anything between us.' The point is I'm trying to keep
her from saying 'let's just
be friends.' If that happens, then, oh well. I think
I should let her know that I
want a relationship longer than a month, but I don't
want to scare her. As we had this talk, I asked her if
she still wants to do whatever we are doing now (walking
to class,
kissing, long hugs, late-night phone calls,
love notes) at our
high school, so everyone is asking if we are going
out, and I tell them we are talking. But most of this is
that I think she is
insecure with
where our
relationship is going. Maybe I need to speak more
with her about it. She said she will think about it, but
we left with a
kiss. Now I really don't care when a
girl says
no to me, but this girl I can't
give up
without a
fight. She said I have
boyfriend attributes, she does things that I love,
she made me
orange chicken on a random day, and I'm at a point
when I will ask her to
be my girlfriend, but that is where I hesitate
because my
sister
told me to take my time and DO NOT RUSH. So I listen to
my
sister, I tell her that I do not want to rush
anything, and I'm not
ready for a relationship either, so I'm taking my
time. I told her that I would by now have her
walking with flowers in school, or a
bear, but then again I don't want to rush. I need
some advice on how to get her not to say to
just
be friends, but then again I'm probably being
selfish. I'm also thinking that maybe I shouldn't be
thinking about
having a
relationship in high school, but then again I want
to." |
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Yes, you are
confused as anyone will be in your situation. Remember that
most
relationships in high schools do not last for very long
for people that end up
going to
college and then on to more
exciting jobs
some place else. Only those that either do not
go to
college or do so in a college closer to home or in some
other ways end up being together are the ones that marry
their
high school sweethearts. In other words, like anything
else in life, if you keep
thinking about
the future, you cannot live in the present, and what
many people do not realize is that it is the present that we
live in, not in the past or the future.
I mean should I stop
traveling now because I will
have more time and money when I am
retired. But what if I
die before
that? Or end up with
diseases? That is why it is important to do what we can
right now and then think about the future when the future
becomes the present.
Now, as I read your note, it appears to me that you
like her more than she does. I think while you
are going nuts about her, she is not and that is why her
lack of enthusiasm for a
serious relationship with you. In other words, you have
more work to do to
win her love.
At this point, and most women are slow to do this, she does
not
feel as passionately and as much in love as you do. So
do what you are doing,
make her
feel special, and emphasize to her the point about the
future and present that I presented above. Hopefully, she
will see through the cloud and realize that she needs to
enjoy what life is offering her right now rather than
keep analyzing the future. |
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| Related:
How to make a
girl fall in love with me
How to revive my teen romance?
How to keep teen romance hot
How to approach my classmate |
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