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I lived in
Japan for 10 years and got
married
to a Japanese woman seven years my senior after being
there for about six year. The
circumstances that lead to the marriage were
symptomatic of why I was never able to have "fun" in the
country the way most
gaijins do. I am
too shy,
lack self-confidence, work in a business that people
find boring (financial research), have a habit of saying
the wrong things at the wrong time, and unable to
read others body language (Asperger's Syndrome), the
quintessential 'nerd' with thick glasses, have a
background of limited involvement with people, for example
no parties in high school or university etc., and always
had too limited funds to go to the "right" places.
So
while some of my
friends in Japan were
dating truly exciting women, I did not have even one
woman - even my wife has been a disaster. I've, however,
moved on. We now have two bright kids who are the exact
opposite of what I was. I live and work for them. Many
guys
go to Japan with high expectations after hearing
how easy it is to get a Japanese girlfriend. Hell,
even I know guys that had a
date
set up before the Skytrain arrived at Ueno.
There are just no guarantees.
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The
bottom line is that there are men in this world whom women
find naturally unattractive and whose personality,
physical and psychological limitations combine to
guarantee