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Cara
writes, "I'm a
mother of
three kids ages 6, 4, and 2. I drive a school bus
and I'm also going
college online. I'm the type of person that likes to
love a lot and so being
rejected I don't do too well with it. And that is
exactly what my hubby does all the time. My husband
works crazy shifts, he's picky about how the house is
cleaned and how it should smell and if I don't do it
right then he gets mad very easily. He would stop
talking to me for maybe about a week or two. We
have sex
like once a week and we've been married for only 2
years and have been together 4 years. I want to know how
to keep my
husband interested in me. I want him to
touch me every time he sees me and
make love when he's next to me. Could be what I
might be wearing? Please help me. Sorry to say but I
don't have no funds to
go shopping for myself."
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I think
your relationship is at a difficult point. Such behavior
is unacceptable for a couple that has been together for
just 4 years. At this point, most men run around the
house looking to get their
wife into
the bedroom any chance that they can get. |
I think
there is little you can change about his personality
with regards to his compulsive behavior related to
cleanliness, but you sure can work on other things. Here
are my thoughts:
- Sit down with him and
review your finances together to see how he can
work less so that he will have
quality family and couple time. There is nothing
worse for sex than being tired.
- I am not sure if this is
possible, but this man might use some anger
management classes. A man not talking to his
wife because the house doesn't smell right has
issues.
- To whatever extent possible,
take care of yourself. I know it is hard with 3
little kids, but even if it is
fixing your hair or applying
lipstick, it can make a difference in how you
feel and
how you look. It is sad that so many women do
not realize this and that is why man are always
looking at all those
naughty pictures on the Internet because their
wives walk around the house looking so dull
and boring.
- Similarly, it is not about paying
$25 for a
Victoria's Secret panties. I have seen some very
naughty, cute panties at Walmart for a few
bucks. Little by little you can build your
lingerie collection, and trust me, just
wearing something sexy underneath your clothes
will make you
feel
sexy and it will show.
- Having
built a lingerie collection, my readers tell me
that teasing is what turns men on. So when you are
in shorts at home and your
pink panty straps shows as you bend in front of
him (often called
whaletail) and he will notice. The effect is the
same when the top of the
bra cup peeks through the cami. Couples tell me
that just switching from shorts to
panties while sleeping does the trick too. You
get the idea. Do what works for you and feel
comfortable.
Men are very visual and more than touching or
kissing they get turned on first through what
they see (or should I say, what they don't see right
away).
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