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Carol
writes, "I
want to be a mistress. I am 46 and
want an older
man. Can you help with how to proceed?"
My
advice has always been simple: if you are hunting, go
where the prey is. In your case, you want to target
places where
wealthy, older men hang out, and trust me, these men
are not on the web (the websites that supposedly help
you
find a sugar daddy are mostly
men
interested in much younger women). Some of the
places that come to mind are
golf
clubs, country clubs,
five-star hotels and other
high end bars,
law firms,
etc.
Older men, married or otherwise, are more open to
having an arrangement in which they can have someone
available to them for a price.
You will
approach them as any other man for dating and
definitely not like a
whore. You should never
discuss money, not until he is ready to make a move
and wants an estimate of your expenses. It is much
better to have paid access to a residence,
car,
etc. rather than
haggle
over money, but you want to make sure that you
have cash as well.
So start mapping out your area and try to connect with
older friends and family members to gain access to these
places. Yeah, not a bad idea to go golfing with an uncle
or take part time job at a local
nightclub
popular among these men. Develop a list of
mature women and men in the friends/family network
and figure out if you could visit them (particularly
those that are single or
not in great marriages and living in
large cities) during the coming months. The goal is
to interact with as many target men as possible using a
trusted network of people.
Also just spend some time with
older men
to better understand their concerns, lifestyle,
relationships, etc. Trust me, I am 43 and I know hardly
anything about people just 10 year older than me. What I
am trying to say is that you have a lot of learning to
do.
The other thing that I was thinking is that is
relocation a possibility for you? If you are serious
about this, you will need to get out of the small town
that you live. Is moving to California or
Florida or
New York,
for instance, something that you would consider? You
need to be in a
large metro area for
things to move forward more smoothly. |
