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Angie writes, "I
have been in a
relationship for past 5 months. After a month of
courtship, I told my man that I had
dated two other guys during this period - these were just
friendly dates. Well, he didn't take the news so well. He now
says that I lied to him and
cheated.
I somehow don't understand why he is lingering on the past.
Why is he behaving this way? He thinks I have made a fool out
of him which I never intended too. He has called it off. Is
there any way I can make him understand my side?
 I hope you realize
that if you were in a relationship, there is no such thing as
friendly dates (I am assuming that you are trying to make a
distinction between a
romantic
date and just hanging out with a male friend). You clearly
cheated (two-timing)
and this man does have a right to be
jealous and tell you that you cheated. Yes, maybe you did
not kiss
or even
touched these men, but while I am not sure about your neck
of the woods, we call it
cheating anyway. (Related:
Polyamorous women)
So
should you even make an attempt to explain to him your
side? I would say No. Why? If this guy has so little
trust
in you, do you really want to spend the rest of your
life with him? Yes, you did go out with a few guys, but
so what? You are still
committed to your
boyfriend.
And if he is not OK with that, how can you be sure that
he will be OK with you if have lunch with your clients
or colleagues or friends? (Related:
I am in love
with 2 girls)
I would say that
just don't bother with this guy - he is probably too
old-fashioned and narrow-minded. Though, I would say that in
the future, if you are dating a guy, you want to make sure
that you don't
date other men though you will still have a right to
socialize with other men - in that case, you would also be
able to proudly introduce these men to your boyfriend, because
you have nothing to hide.
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