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Barry,
an otherwise happily
married man who has no intention of
leaving
his wife, has a huge and uncontrollable
crush on a
married woman who is a close
girlfriend of his wife. On several occasions she has
flirted with him but they have
never
talked about their feelings for each other. He
writes, "Can you tell me
what are
the signals of her interest that she might give out
so I'm aware of them while reading her the next time.
How to read a woman's body language which indicates
her liking for you? Do women indicate that they are
willing to go ahead with something like this? If yes,
how? Frankly, I've not entirely dismissed the sad
reality that her gestures may be innocent or that she's
OK with just liking me and does not want to do anything
more about it (since
women are emotionally more intelligent, where such
stuff is concerned), out of
fear of being caught, or for moral reasons, or for
whatever. So if at
all it appears like this should be the case, should I
pursue her subtly hoping things will turn around or just
drop it and enjoy whatever it is that comes my way,
without ruffling any feathers or making dangerous moves?
As for me, I want to have a
cozy relationship with her on the side (I hope I'm
not sounding horrible) but don't know how to go about
it."
Is she a candidate for
an extra-marital affair?
I
think there is not enough evidence yet of where she
stands.
Flirting with you is a sign that she has a certain
level of comfort with you and likes you more than a
normal
married woman will like another man. I have to say
that you need to see her at least half a dozen times
more to see if she is just a charming, fun loving,
joyful, happy person that
enjoys
company of her friends or if she has her eyes on
you. I think you want to notice her language, number of
times she
approaches you, and how often she
smiles at
you when no one is looking.
I think if you
desperately want to just get laid, then your best
option is to try Craig's List or a host of
websites directed at married people willing to cheat
or finding
a mistress. Some people get very lucky while others
need a bit of time but it is easy to
find
casual sex even for married people.
However, if you want to have
sex with
this specific woman, then, I don't have to tell you
that it might take months of courtship to make that
happen even if she is willing, considering all the
limitations you two have. The question that you have to
ask is what do you want. Just
casual sex with anyone other than your wife? Or this
specific lady? The second choice may require a lot of
time, patience, and still nothing may come out of it, or
not as much as you want, or of course, she may turn out
to be what you really dream of: a long-term relationship
with her while you two remain
married to your spouses.
In the meantime, as I said before, increase chances of
you two being together, notice her and be warm to her.
Hopefully she will understand that you have something
more on your mind. |
