Meeting a woman, falling in love, and a breakup
Story of a man who has a terrible experience with a Japanese girl

By Dennis Roland

My very first girlfriend in life was a Japanese girl. Her name was Akiko. I was 20 years old and she was 2 years older than me when we first met in a class at Temple University in Philadelphia in the US. When I first saw her I didn't think that she was a Japanese. I thought she was a Chinese girl. She was very cute (I love cute girls very much - well who doesn't?). She was about 5 feet tall with straight long black hair, big eyes, small nose, and very luscious lips. 

After that first date she got sick and had no one to take care of her. So everyday I came over to her place and took care of her. We enjoyed each other's company. I guess I was doing something right because her friends were saying that I was nicer than her ex-boyfriend. I really loved her very much. I was a little bit naive because she was my first girlfriend but she knew what she was doing. We had been going out for almost 3 years and during that time we didn't fight at all. A couple of times I did some stupid stuff and she would get angry but nothing serious ever happened.

Our private life was great too. Since I was a virgin and I made love to her for the first time, I guess she liked that. She was so gentle with me. She was guiding me all the way since she had more experience than me. She liked it when I was on top, but we did do it in different positions. I guess she really liked being physically intimate because we did it everyday (sometimes twice a day except when she had her period but then during those days she would perform other acts on me). I couldn't get enough of her and she just supported me since she also loved it - it appears that she was like a quiet, high-performance machine. She was very submissive person too - she would always try to please me. One thing I like about Japanese girls is that they try to please the person they like.

We had fun together. She wasn't a materialistic person. She didn't care if I had money or not as long as we were together. She was everything to me. I lost all my friends so I could be with her. I saw her everyday. We tried to be in the same class and we scheduled our classes so we could meet for lunch everyday. We would go to school together and come home together. Wherever I went, she went and where she went I joined. Sometimes I had to stay late in school to do some school projects and she would bring food to me. She was also a great cook. I loved the food she cooked. She knew how to make Italian, Mexican, American, and Japanese dishes. She was the only person in my life. I never cheated on her or even thought about cheating on her. There was a time when a Korean girl who wanted to go out with me started calling me and bothering me, but I still loved Akiko so I didn't cheat on her.  (Related:  Korean beauty Ursula Mayes)

Our relationship ended when she graduated from college and moved to New York. Now I don't blame her for breaking up with me. It's partially my fault too. I was still in college and I couldn't support her. I just wish that she would wait for me to graduate and get a job, but I guess she couldn't. I thought she really loved me. After she graduated from college she was trying to find a job in Philadelphia, but she couldn't find any except in New York. For a couple of months she was commuting from Philadelphia to New York everyday so she could be with me but it was so tiring for her and I didn't want to see her suffer, so she decided to move to New York and live there. I visited her on weekends, or whenever I had time. I was still in school so I could go there to see her as much as I wanted too. Everything was fine for a couple of months until she decided to visit Japan for work. I think then she met some guy. I also guess that he had similar interests with her so I think they fell in love. I didn't know she was cheating on me. I thought she still loved me so one day when I visited her I found some picture of her and this guy kissing. I felt like my world collapsed. I couldn't believe it. That was also my first time my heart broke. It hurt so much. I probably cried for more than 2 years thinking about her.  (Related:  Breakup for the first time)

I guess she still liked me and I know I liked her even though she cheated on me. She decided to go back to Japan and probably to be with that guy. Before she left for Japan for good she visited me in Philadelphia. I also wanted to see her too before she left. So we hung around together for a couple of days and I tried not to be intimate with her but we did it anyway. Since we did do it together I hope she still liked me. If that is not the case, then she was nothing but a whore. I wish to think that she still liked me. Unfortunately I'm starting to see lots of Japanese girls cheating on their boyfriends (I just had a recent rendezvous with a Japanese girl who cheated on her boyfriend with me). I'm also starting to see that Japanese girl just like to do it. I don't know if love exists in Japan.

I don't know why I still like Japanese girls. My heart has been broken several times by Japanese girls and I still prefer them. Maybe because they are cute. I don't like pretty girls - just cute girls. Maybe I need help. People are telling me not to go out with Japanese girls. Even my Japanese friend told me not to go out with Japanese girls because they use guys. Is that true? Are Japanese girls heartless?

I still miss Akiko sometimes. I would like to meet her and just say Hi when I go to Japan. Wish me luck in finding her.

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