In a country with
as many as 90 million
singles (basically two out of every five adult American is
single), you would not notice that if you watch television
during the holiday season - the ads only show
happy
families and
couples. The companies simply assume that single people
don't exist in America, but the reality is that they do and
while it is not easy for all singles, this drama around the
holidays can only aggravate the pain of those who are trying
to
find a relationship or have
ended a
painful one.
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Dr. Jeff
Standridge and Rev. Tim Kellerman, co-Founders of The
Abundant Life Project, recommend the following approach
to the Holiday Season:
Get your mind right - Think about what the
Holidays mean to you and get a clear firm picture of the
feelings you want to experience throughout Holidays and
even into the
New Year.
Plan your Holiday experience -
Once you know what you want to experience or leave the
Holidays feeling, then
plan your activities so as to create those experiences
and/or feelings. For instance, if you wish to enter the New
Year with feelings of gratitude, contentment and love, then
plan to volunteer at a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen,
or youth home. |
 Grow your relationships
- The
Holidays are a time for being together. Set a goal
of
nurturing
one or more relationships during this period.
Pick out one or two "acquaintances" or friends, and make
it a point to have a
stronger relationship after the
New Year than you have today. Do what it takes to
get there.
Plan your spending -
Don't overspend for the Holidays. Many times the
worst part about the Holidays is the dread of receiving
the
credit card bills in January. Remember, the Holidays
are more about
relationships than about commercialism. Resist the
illusion of buying your way into the hearts of your
loved ones.
Serve someone else - Nothing
makes for a great Holiday experience like doing something nice
for someone else. Instead of feeling pressured to buy
something for every friend, co-worker, or employee, send each
of them a card with a note saying "I served
soup at the local soup kitchen in your honor," or any
manner of other service-oriented activities. (Related:
Give gifts with meaning)
Recommended:
Office holiday party
Holiday style tips
Looking good at Christmas
How to prepare for Christmas
Plastic surgery as a Christmas gift
Weight control during holidays
Home decoration for Christmas
Valentines day for singles |
