| Summary: Remember when
they say that be careful what you wish for, you might
end up getting it? Women who are desperate to be
with a man may simply end up with a desperate man and
that means a
lifetime of misery and unhappiness.
Obviously, when you dream of more positive things in
life and want only the best, then your actions and
choices end up aligning in a way that you get what you
really want. Read below the case of a woman who
ends up with a loser and cannot gather the guts to
breakup with him because the fear of being single and
lonely scares the
hell out of her. |
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Laura
writes, "I have been with my boyfriend for
almost 2 years and for more than half of the
relationship, I have been the
sole supporter. He got laid off
and has at his convenience been
looking for work. He has yet to
find a job, our
sex life has died down to almost nothing and
all we do is fight. Every day
we
find something to argue about. I don't want
to
kick him out but I'm sick and tired of
holding it all together for so long. I am
working three jobs and I can't seem to get ahead
because of his
obsession with buying and selling
dogs because he's bored has nothing else to
do. If I don't give into him by
giving
him money it's
hell literally. My family has disowned me
because of my relationship with him and my kids
just plain don't like the way he treats me. I
know I have to do something but I just don't
know what. I love him and enjoy his company when
we are not fighting and the
thought of being alone scares me. Any ideas
on what I should do?"
You
are not the only woman who behaves in this irrational
manner. I have heard from many women who engage in this
type of
self-destructive behavior because they have such
low self esteem and have convinced themselves that
what they have is the best they are going to get. |
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Forgive me for being direct and honest, but you are with
a man who
is loser and probably
proud of it. I would not be surprised that he may be
just fine with the current arrangement and may even
wonder if that is not the
best way to live life and why he cannot
live like that the rest of his life. I have
absolutely no respect for a
man who sits at home playing with the
dogs
while extending his palm to his girlfriend when he
needs money.
First of all you have to get this idea out of your head
that you will be alone and
lonely when you
throw him
out. I am glad that you
have kids; I mean
how can you be alone when you have
someone to love you and they will love you back
unconditionally. Without this man, you will love develop
a new
emotional bond with your kids that you have probably
lost due to the acrimony in the house. |
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 Secondly, you have to reject this notion
that this is the
best that a
man has to offer. Trust me, there are a lot of
good men
out there and they would die to be with a woman like you who
is supportive, patient, and loving.
I really do not think that this man will ever
build a
successful life and be a
good provider for you and your kids. Most likely he will
be a lifelong liability for you. With the
economy in such bad shape and no
sign of jobs coming back for those who are not highly
skilled, he could be like this for a very long time.
I would like you to politely tell him to get out. Be kind by
giving him a week or two so that he is not homeless. Give
him some
pocket money as well, if possible, so that he does not
starve to death, but ask him to leave ASAP.
Also, take another
look at
your life and list all the things that you have wanted
to do but cannot because of all the jobs that you have.
Maybe with him gone, you can
reduce the number of hours you work and
pay more
attention to your kids, friends and family. And as you
do this, you will realize that you are not as lonely as you
thought you will be and
feeling much better about life than being
stuck with a
loser at home. As you will
look and
feel happier, trust me, men will notice that (and also
because you will
be single)
and want to date you.
I don't think a
sweet woman like you will
be single forever, and in the meantime, as one of my
readers recently told me that after she
dumped her loser boyfriend, she found that her
battery-operated massage was far more reliable, totally
faithful, needed no work, and
gave her more powerful orgasms than her boyfriend ever
did. |
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