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Elena writes, "I'm
attractive, smart,
and funny. I have had an
ON/OFF relationship with a man
for 2 years but because of his
nasty attitude
towards me, I have not been very enthusiastic towards
taking it to the next level. He is
abusive,
controlling and
does not treat me as a
man should treat his woman. And
believe me, he can be very
nice/charming when he wants
to be. He admitted
he loved me, and still does, but he
doesn't know why he
treats me so bad. We have since
broken it off, but I still see him around, and even
worse he is
dating a new girl. He is
super nice to these
new girlfriends. I guess the thing that bothers me the
most is, he
dates girls less attractive than me, and
less intelligent. And he called me
unattractive all the
time,
made fun of my clothes,
makeup, etc. but he never
says anything mean to these other girls. I'm not saying
I am
drop-dead gorgeous, but I do know that I am
not
ugly. What would make him act this way towards me and
not these other girls?"
Men do not like really attractive girls
Most men are intimidated by
beautiful women. Actually, a
new study that I read says that most
men suffer from
stress and
anxiety around
pretty women. The reason is
simple:
beautiful women are more
confident of themselves
and are always
pursued by other men. So the chances that
she can
find another man are very high. This scares
men
because they like to be in control.
I am guessing that this
man is insecure about himself
and feels
intimidated by you. Rather than appreciating
and feeling lucky that such a
beautiful woman loves him,
he is so scared that he wants to attack your
self
esteem. He is arguing that by
always putting you down
and
criticizing you constantly you will
feel so bad
about yourself that you will consider yourself
blessed
that he is with you and start worshiping him because
that is the best that you are ever going to have. The
fact that he is already
dating other girls, I think it
is best to discard him from your life. |
