| Lacey
writes, "I have been with my boyfriend for two years and
we have a one-month old girl. We had the most
beautiful relationship and we were
having sex almost every day before I
got pregnant. Since then, though, things have been
going downhill. During the middle of the pregnancy, he
was
flirting with a 17-year old girl. While he said
nothing happened she said they
had sex. I still
took him back but I have the feeling that he's
secretly still seeing her. What do I do when he won't
tell the truth? Go with my gut or just stick it out for
the sake of the kid?" How to
nail down a cheat?
To find out for sure if he is still
seeing this girl or not, you will need to be patient and
watchful and can find an accurate answer so that you do
not have to rely on gut. Almost all criminals leave a
trace of their crimes. So if you are just a bit careful
monitoring him, you maybe able to find out if he is
telling the truth. Having an
extramarital affair creates a lot of evidence in
form of telephone calls made, hotel/restaurant
bills, and a
compulsive cheat will often try to hide his
whereabouts or have excuses for simple things. If you
follow the money, you can generally find what he is up
to. It is also very cost effective to
hire a private investigator.
I wouldn't be surprised that the
sex with that girl was a one-time thing and there is
nothing much going on there for you to worry about. It
is important for you to answer this question for sure,
though, because it is not fun to live in fear about
something. And if is still seeing her, you will be able
to
confront him and either ask him to stop or if you
choose to leave, you will do so based on solid evidence
rather than a hunch. |
