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Esther writes, " I am 4 months
pregnant and I just found out that
my boyfriend is
cheating on me with his two
ex girlfriends and two more
girls but he says that he
does not love them. I was
living with him but after I found out I went back to my
parents. When I ask him about it he ignores it and tells
me to forget about it. I want to
move on but I still
want him back because
I love him and he is the
father of
the baby I am carrying. I don't want to talk to him
first and give him the idea that I want him back because
he is used to it from the exes who often beg him to go
see them. I don't know what to do. Please
help?"
Cheating once can
be an error in judgment but repeated cheating is a
problem
Generally speaking when a
man cheats, I tell a woman to
investigate
what may be wrong with the relationship and
try to work with him to
salvage the
relationship.
We are human and we can be
tempted and
make mistakes.
In your boyfriend's case, though, he has already
cheated
with at least 4 women, while he has a
pregnant
girlfriend. In other words, this man has serious
emotional and
commitment issues. I am not sure if you
and him could
patch up that he would be
monogamous for
life. Do you really want to be with such an
unreliable man? What I am saying is that you have a lot
of soul searching to do to decide if you want to be with
a
man who is a compulsive cheat.
Have a heart-to-heart talk to him like two adults and do
not
beg him to come back. Instead talk to him as adults.
If he cannot truly convince you
that this is the last time it has happened, you are
better off single than with him. However, like a
man of
values, he apologizes and convinces you that
this will never happen again, then you can
forgive him
and
take him back. |
