Mark,
who enjoys
wearing feminine underwear, writes, "I want to come
out and admit I
wear women's underwear. I am just a regular guy and
love women but this is something that I love to do. How
would I approach this subject with a woman?"
I am
just going to give a detailed answer and explain all the
options since you have not given me much information.
If you are a
crossdresser (dress in complete women's outfits and
makeup) and do so frequently.
 If you are in a
relationship, sit down and calmly explain what the
situation is. Also give her an opportunity to digest
the information and to do whatever she feels like.
Tell her that you won't judge her for her decision and
she shouldn't either. If you are not in a
relationship, then for
future relationships, it is
best to be upfront about it. Doing it in secret would
be stressful and chances are you can
find a woman who will support you.
If you frequently wear full set of
women's
underwear (bra,
panties,
stockings, etc.) under a man's clothes.
I would say that do the same as above if
you are in a
serious relationship. If you are in a
casual relationship and do not dress everyday, there is
nothing to do right now. There is a possibility that your
situation may change.
If you frequently wear panties for a long
period of time, including going to work.
Many men who have written to us say that
they first approached it by jokingly telling their partner
about her
panties being so attractive and how you want to try them
on if she doesn't mind. If she freaks out, you have to stop
and decide whether you want to be with that person. If she
is fine with that, then just go ahead and tell her that you
like it. Do it occasionally from then on but keep her
involved by showing her when you wear and asking her to go
shopping with you. What freaks out women is that she starts
to wonder
if you are gay and that she will lose you. As long as
she understands that you are just a regular guy who happens
to like them for comfort, feel, and design choices, many
find it normal.
If you occasionally like to
wear panties.
Probably there is no reason to come
out if you have even the slightest doubt that things
could go wrong in your relationship. If you are very
comfortable in your relationship then you can
playfully tell her like in the example above and
hopefully it will enhance your relationship.
And by the way, we
like to know how things turn out for people like Mark, how
they deal with such situations, what worked, what didn't work,
etc. That is the only way we can help other people in your
situation. So please
share your
story with us (and we promise never to disclose your
identity).Update
As per my
request above, I heard from a lot of men and couples and I
am reproducing a few selected stories:
I love to
wear women's lingerie. As I
type this I'm wearing pretty red and
black lace briefs
and a push up bra that I think makes me look so
sissy
and pretty. I'm thankful that my understanding
wife can
accept and sometimes even encourage this!
*****
My wife knows I wear her panties and
although she doesn't request me to do so, she accepts it
and sometimes enjoys it. Mostly it's up to me to judge
her mood and whether or not I let her know I'm wearing
her panties that day. She knows I have a
crossdressing
tendency and has let me know that
bras are a no-no,
which is OK with me. I have worn her
jeans and we've
gone out like that. I've worn a pair of her
stockings
once and she just rolled her eyes. Her
nighties - no.
Her
robe - OK. I think when it comes right down to it,
things worn from the waist and below is OK. I love my
wife very, very much and don't want to upset her as the
relationship is much more important than my
wearing her underthings.
*****
I have worn
woman's lingerie since I
was in high school and have loved it. Never wore it in
public but would wear it especially when taking a
shower. What a great feeling, especially
bras.
When I got married I had to hide what I was doing. For a
couple years I kept my pleasure a secret even buying and
hiding my own
lingerie.
One night while we were in the middle of
foreplay I got
out one of my
bras and put it on my wife. She asked me
where that came from and I told her I bought it just for
her.
As I was laying on top of her I unhooked the
bra and
slowly moved the straps off of her. I kept the
cups on.
Then as we continued into
love making I managed to turn
the
bra over so the the cups were on me. I managed to
slip my arms through the straps so I was now wearing the
bra except for it being hooked in the back.
We continued to
make love. I would move around so the
cups rubbed on her
nipples and she liked the feeling.
When we finished I sat up with the
bra on me. I said
something like "Wow, that really felt good. I felt so
close to you."
A month went by and I tried the same thing again. Then
one night I said, "This feels so
sexy. I feel so close to
you. Can you hook your
bra in the back for me?" She
hesitated but did it. since then there has not been much
of a problem. I come to bed now dressed in a smooth
stretch
top,
bra,
panties, half slip and
stockings and
she says nothing. She even likes it during
love making
feeling all that against her skin.
She has even handed
bras into me in fitting rooms so I
could see if I liked them when we go
shopping.
It has been so much fun. One thing we save for every so
often is to
dress in bra,
panties,
stockings and a full
slip and then soap each other up in the shower. If you
have never tried this, you have to give it a try!
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