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Steve
writes, "I am
in love with a married woman. She
works in
my office and is reportedly living a
happily
married life, but I am in
seriously in love with her. I don't know how it
happened, but even though I don't want to tell her that
I love her, I can't
control my emotions about her. It is affecting my
concentration at work and I fear if I will be punished
or even fired. She is self-dependent, prefers work
first, is very strict and to make things more painful
for me, she is my team leader (it means that I have to
interact with her several times a day). I guess she is 7
years older than me. Please help me overcome this."
How to get a crush out of your
mind?
I can understand how you feel right
now and how difficult it is for you.
Now, I hope that you realize that she is very
professional, your team leader, and in a
happy marriage. In other words, even if she likes
you as a
nice
guy, nothing much may come out of it and you might
end up jeopardizing your situation in the
office and maybe even
lose your
job. I mean I like
Angelina Jolie but no matter
how much I want her, it is impossible to have a
relationship with her. From time to time we all meet
people that we fall in love with and it seems that we
cannot live without them, the reality is that some
things are unachievable. For instance, I cannot be the
president of United States or become an
astronaut or
a
movie star or
bodybuilder. Some things just don't work out and
this woman fits that profile. So it is a good idea that
you have kept your mouth shut so far.
I would suggest that you try to stay away from her. If
possible ask for a transfer to another department or
city. The farther you are from her the easier it will be
for you to forget her.
You should also seriously
look
for a girlfriend so that you can get this woman off
your mind as this is most likely a
crush and you can easily
get over your crush. When you
fall in
love with a single woman who will love you and you
will love her back, you will stop
thinking about this woman. |
