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| Is my online boyfriend serious about me?
We have never met but we are in love
| Summary: Starting a
relationship online is a great way to find the right
person, get to know each other a little bit before going
out on a date, but chatting online and camming are no
substitute to going out on dates and spending quality
time together. Regardless of how much time you
spend online, there is nothing more powerful than
touching the one you like and being able to gaze into
each other's eyes. In other words, a relationship
that is only online should not be taken that seriously. |
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 Emily
writes, "I'm
in love with a guy who is 15 years
younger than me. I'm 46. I do really love him,
but the
age gap makes me me uncertain, like
sometimes I
don't believe him, I
don't trust
him, even when he has been showing me that
he
loves me too. He says that he doesn't care about
the
age difference, but I do. He
communicates
with me mostly online, very seldom via text
messages, he never
calls me on the phone or
sends any mail. We have been chatting and
communicating for about 7 months. He looks for
me almost every day. We do
use webcam
often, and we can spend hours chatting and
flirting online. But he is very simple man, he
doesn't say much, he says that he
loves me so
much. However, there are some things that I
don't like about him; he never uses my name in our
conversations online. Should I believe/trust
him, or I should just
forget about him? We
haven't meet in person yet, but we are
in love
since we met online? |
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Based on
your description, it seems to me that
age has nothing to
do with this, but this guy simply has you as one of his
many
cyber girlfriends. Some
men are addicted to only
virtual friendships and these guys typically have more than one.
Their interest in them is limited to chatting and for
some really
creepy guys in having cybersex with them.
They will simply say anything in order to
get these
women hooked to them and once they find out they are
cons and breakup
with these fraudsters,
they move on to yet another
lonely woman online and
start all over again. Since they make no
emotional
investment, and consider this a game, they lose nothing
but end up causing
heartbreak to many women.
I think if you have been chatting with him for 7 months
and he claims to be
in love with you, you should insist
that you want to see him in person. You must also insist
on meeting in a public place for the first time and
regardless of how much you like him, please do not
go
home with him or
bring him home with you. There are some
really crazy people online these days and you should be
extremely careful. If any of this does not go well, you
will know what you are dealing with. |
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If he is an
awesome man (it could just be
that like many young people he may have very different
communication approaches unlike many people in their 40s who
still prefer the old fashioned way of talking to people) you
will eventually find out and your love will prevail but
before you confirm that, it is better to be extremely
cautious because for all we know he could be nothing like
his online persona. I hear from so many
couples who
have found love and gotten
married on the Internet but
without meeting in person and really getting to know each
other, I find it hard to believe that
love is that serious. |
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